When we’re close to people and know them well (a spouse, family members, a business partner, a lifelong friend), we tend not to ask them questions. A powerful change can occur in these relationships when we shift away from advising, criticizing, opining—and toward the direction of asking and listening. That shift to “asking mode” can even transform adversarial relationships—the kind that are tearing much of our society apart these days at town halls and holiday dinners.
