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The secret of living an extraordinary life is to take control of the mind, since this alone will determine whether you live in a suffering state or a beautiful state.
Our lives are shaped not by our conditions, but by our decisions.
So what’s the biggest decision you can make in your life right now?
the single most important decision in life is this: Are you committed to being happy, no matter what happens to you?
will you commit to enjoying life not only when everything goes your way but also when everything goes against you, when injustice happens, when someone screws you over, when you lose something or someone you love, or when nobody seems to understand or appreciate you?
You have to decide that you’re 100% responsible for your state of mind and for your experience of this life.
All you have to do to change your life forever is commit in your heart and soul to find something to appreciate in every moment.
The first tool is what I call “the 90-second rule.” Whenever I start to suffer, I give myself 90 seconds to stop it so that I can return to living in a beautiful state.
you keep doing this with real consistency, you actually rewire your nervous system, training your mind to find the good in every situation, so your experience of life is one of thankfulness and joy.
Living in a beautiful state no matter what is the ultimate freedom and the ultimate gift that you can give to those you love.
I’ve recorded this meditation and made it available online at www.unshakeable.com and on the Unshakeable mobile app, so you can listen to the audio with your eyes closed.
you can’t be grateful and angry at the same time. You can’t be grateful and fearful at the same time. If you want a miserable life, there’s no better way to achieve it than to focus your mind on anger and fear! But if you want a happy life, if you want to live in a beautiful state, nothing works better than to focus on gratitude!
Step 1. First, I want you to pick an aspect of your life where you have some “unfinished business”: something you need to change or resolve in your professional or personal life; an issue you’ve been putting off because dealing with it would be upsetting, frustrating, or stressful.
Step 2. Now set aside that situation for a moment and place both of your hands on your heart. Feel it beating. I want you to close your eyes and breathe deeply into your heart.
Step 3. As you breathe deeply, feel grateful for your heart. Feel what a gift your heart is.
Step 4. As you breathe into your heart, feeling deep gratitude for your heart, I want you to physically feel your heartbeat.
Step 5. I want you to think of the first experience and step into it right now as if you’re there, inside that memory, reliving
Now think of a second experience, another moment for which you can feel so grateful—something that felt like a pure gift in your life, a miracle, an act of grace, of love.
Next, I want you to think of a third moment for which you could feel so grateful.
Step 7. And now, as you breathe into your heart and feel this tremendous gratitude, I want you to remember the issue that was upsetting you earlier. As you stay in this beautiful state, feeling filled with gratitude, I want you to ask yourself a simple question: “All I need to remember about that situation, all I need to focus on, all I need to believe, all I need to do is . . . what?”
It’s all about shifting your focus away from the illusion of loss, less, or never, and engaging your gratitude, appreciation, and love for what you already have in your life!
Take all of your negative thoughts and all of your negative emotions, trade them for appreciation, and your whole life changes in an instant.
And then there are those people you want to slap in the head because they freak out when the milk in their caffé latte isn’t hot enough!
It’s your choice whether to live in a suffering state or a beautiful state. You have the capability to become a master of enjoyment, to fill your mind with appreciation, to be happy no matter what. Best of all, the joy in you will affect everyone around you.
