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Never take your eyes off what really matters.
Never forget how terrible a person can be.
Life is too fast paced. Your relationships shouldn’t be.”
“But trust in relationships is like fragile glass. How can you build on a cracked foundation? How can you be sure you’re getting the truth? You have to protect your own heart. No one else will do it for you.”
If success was the best revenge, what was failure?
It’s normal to have been hurt.
Sometimes rules don’t apply to every situation.”
“Sometimes, good people make mistakes. It costs you nothing to hear someone out.”
do whatever will make you feel better.
There wasn’t a more optimistic creature in the world than a person who wanted to believe someone hadn’t treated them like shit. Let him corroborate what they’d cobbled together.
It was so much easier to write people off. Much harder to navigate the gray areas of interpersonal relationships.
Every time you hurt someone, you break off a little piece of them. Not only do they have to live with that broken piece, then the next person who comes along has to figure out a way to spackle that spot. Your behavior has ripple effects.
If it’s important to you, it’s not an overreaction.
“You know, in certain special cases, it’s okay to give someone the benefit of the doubt.”
“Hey, don’t think about what you may have done in the past. Think about how hard you worked to get here.”
Nobody spoke enough about how much bodies could be starved for platonic affection. She knew she gave off strong Do Not Touch vibes, but she needed occasional hugs too.
It was easy to see danger when someone flung knives at you. Harder when they quietly, subtly poked you full of holes.
“Personality and heart matter in all aspects of life, business included.”
“Appearances can be deceiving.”
“Being vulnerable is a risk. Love—romantic, platonic, familial, it doesn’t matter what kind of love—is a risk.” She closed her eyes tight, tears leaking out. “Because you’re right. They can leave. They can die or be hurt or simply walk away.” Her eyes opened. “But a moment of that love, child, is worth it. If you have a second, a minute, a month, a year, a decade with that person? You count yourself lucky. You can use that love and the lessons it taught you to plant more seeds for love. You can live off that love for a lifetime.
In general, I believe survivors. And when I say that, I don’t mean to say I blindly believe them or that I blindly believe the alleged perpetrator guilty. But the societal impulse is to disbelieve survivors, and we don’t really do that when it comes to any other misconduct. When someone claims they’ve been mugged, we don’t treat them with skepticism. We believe them. We investigate, but we believe them.”
How many brilliant minds have been suppressed because a toxic workplace ended their careers?”
“Girl, my nudes could wallpaper my house. We’ll take care of you.”
“Anyone’s violent with the right provocation. I choose not to be violent, that’s different.”
It’s not failure to accept protection sometimes.”
You’re an alpha. But alphas need to rest. And they need to recoup. And they need to cry and be vulnerable and take a break from taking care of everyone.”
“It’s not a weakness to take care of yourself. Asking for and taking what you need to function should never be considered a weakness.”
“Trust is the only reason the world ever functions as it should. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn’t, and I know that uncertainty is scary, but that’s the only way you figure out who your closest people are.”
There’s no such thing as weakness or strength or power battles. There’s just a person who loves you. And it’s amazing.”
you can love something and know there are problems with it.
“See, that’s the funny thing. Sometimes you don’t intend to do something, and you do it, and no one gives a fuck what you intended because you’ve done the thing.”
“No one’s universally liked. Beyoncé isn’t universally liked. Has that stopped her? No. Be like Beyoncé.”