Art Aron’s 36 questions have become famous—there’s even an app you can download if you want to try them out with a partner. (It’s called “36 Questions.”) But in some ways, the questions are beside the point. It’s not these specific questions that create intimacy—it’s the turn-taking. Another set of 36 questions could work just as well, so long as they matched the escalating cycle of vulnerability that Aron created.
