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Symbolic gestures: minimal effort, maximum effectiveness!
I don’t care that it is not equal—I feel supported, and that perception is important.
Finding the tasks your mate can’t tolerate if they’re neglected, and then foisting them on him, is an exciting game of strategy.
it drove him nuts that I could never seem to get our daughter to soccer on time. Aha: you take her!
Couples counseling is not always, in the words of my father, “a buncha crap.”
Children learn what they live.
kids often register what you do more than what you say.
Prevent future arguments by tackling the big questions about parenthood in advance (not just the fun ones such as “Should the crib mobile have ducks or bunnies?”).
If you are able to swing paternity leave, your marriage, and your baby, may benefit hugely.
When fathers experience skin-to-skin cuddling with their newborns, the babies go to sleep faster, cry less, and are calmer than babies who did not have the same contact with Dad,
men who take paternity leave live longer than others—with
Date nights: a corny necessity.
Be mindful of the ways you are shutting your husband out, or making him feel incompetent.
What does it cost you?
If your mate wants a nap or a run or a night out with friends, what is it really costing you?
Don’t pee on the gift.
Don’t suffer (for) the little children.
research about how children are upset when their parents are tired and stressed?).
Let him do things his way.
Small things often.
Small, specific, everyday gestures of affection that require almost no energy—giving
“Get your relationship together while your kids are young, because trust me, you and your husband are really going to need each other for emotional support when your kids are teenagers.
Your child can, and should, help you out.
Look for the good.
