The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now

by Meg Jay

Most of these twentysomethings have no idea what they will be doing, where they will be living, or who they will be with in two or even ten years. They don’t know when they will be happy or when they will be able to pay their bills. They wonder if they should be photographers or lawyers or designers or bankers. They don’t know whether they are a few dates or many years from a meaningful relationship. They worry about whether they will have families and whether their marriages will last. Most simply, they don’t know if their lives will work out and they don’t know what to do.

He felt overwhelmed by the prospect that he could go “anywhere” or do “anything.” He was paralyzed by the fact that he didn’t know which of the “anywheres” or “anythings” would work out.