Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

by Lori Gottlieb

Doing something prompts you to do something else, replacing a vicious cycle with a virtuous one. Most big transformations come about from the hundreds of tiny, almost imperceptible, steps we take along the way.

There’s something so inspiring about the Nike slogan, “Just do it!” But most of us don’t “just do it.” In Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, I write about the stages of change—from pre-contemplation to action and maintenance. By the time we’ve made a decision, we’ve probably gone through this process without even realizing it. I always tell patients, “Action begets action.” One small action leads to another small action which leads to another, and then one day, you look at where you are and say, “I’m so different from how I was a year/five years ago.”