Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

by Lori Gottlieb

“they” in the audience, even though nobody’s really watching, at least not how we think they are. The people who are watching us—the people who really see us—don’t care about the false self, about the show we’re putting on.

Gain and loss. Loss and gain. Which comes first?

There’s a biblical saying that translates roughly as “First you

will do, then you will understand.” Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith and experience something before its meaning becomes apparent.

We grow in connection with others. Everyone needs to hear that other person’s voice saying, I believe in you. I can see possibilities that you might not see quite yet. I imagine that something different can happen, in some form or another. In therapy we say, Let’s edit your story.