Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

by Lori Gottlieb

What people don’t like to think about is that you can do everything right—in life or in a treatment protocol—and still get the short end of the stick. And when that happens, the only control you have is how you deal with that stick—your way, not the way others say you should.

People often mistake numbness for nothingness, but numbness isn’t the absence of feelings; it’s a response to being overwhelmed by too many feelings.

I want real life—real people—to be my world.

I know, for example, that people who are demanding, critical, and angry tend to suffer from intense loneliness. I know that a person who acts this way both wants to be seen and is terrified of being seen.

You are not the best person to talk to you about you right now.

We all have a deep yearning to understand ourselves and be understood.

People want to be understood and to understand, but for most of us, our biggest problem is that we don’t know what our problem is.

Why do I do the very thing that will guarantee my own unhappiness over and over again?