searching for issues that would inevitably provide her with a reason to leave. In not wanting her boyfriends to be the enigma that her father was, she’d unwittingly re-create a story of abandonment—only in this version, she was the one doing the abandoning.
to avoid abandonment like that occurring in childhood, people will become the abandoner in their own relationships—this way they can protect themselves from the possibility of abandonment. i fucking do this constantly.
