Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

by Lori Gottlieb

that change and loss travel together. We

Fireflies love the dark too. There’s beauty in those places. But we have to look in there to see it.

People don’t always remember events or conversations clearly, but they do remember with great accuracy how an experience made them feel.

“You’re going to have to feel pain—everyone feels pain at times—but you don’t have to suffer so much. You’re not choosing the pain, but you’re choosing the suffering.”

“Not knowing is a good place to start,”

“Your feelings don’t have to mesh with what you think they should be,” he explained. “They’ll be there regardless, so you might as well welcome them because they hold important clues.”

The answer to an unasked question is always no,

I’ve noticed that dreams can be a precursor to self-confession—a kind of pre-confession. Something buried is brought closer to the surface, but not in its entirety.

how we were trying too hard to make ourselves happy.

often different parts of ourselves want different things, and if we silence the parts we find unacceptable, they’ll find other ways to be heard.

That’s most of us. We feel completely stuck, trapped in our emotional cells, but there’s a way out—as long as we’re willing to see it.”

freedom involves responsibility, and there’s a part of most of us that finds responsibility frightening.