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December 10 - December 20, 2023
Distract yourself: An emotion is only as strong as you allow it to be. Whenever you experience a negative feeling, instead of focusing on it, get busy right away.
Interrupt: Do something silly or unusual to break the pattern. Shout, do a silly dance or speak with a strange voice.
Move: Stand up, go for a walk, do push-ups, dance, or use a power posture. By changing your physiology, you can change the way you feel.
Listen to music: Listening to your favorite music may shift y...
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Shout: Talk to yourself with a loud and authoritarian voice and give yourself a pep talk. Use your voice and...
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Do it anyway: Leave your feeling alone and do what you have to do. Mature adults do what they have to do whether they feel like it or not.
Do something about it: Your behavior indirectly changes your feelings.
Write it down: Take a pen and paper and write down what you worry about, why, and what you can do about it. Be as specific as possible.
Write down what happened: Take a piece of paper and write down what exactly happened to generate the negative emotion.
Talk: Have a discussion with a friend. You may be overreacting, making things worse than they are. Sometimes, all you need is a different perspective.
Remember a time when you felt good about yourself: This can help you get back in that state and gain a new perspective.
Allow your emotions to be: Stop trying to resist your emotions or to change them. Allow them to be what they are.
Embrace your emotion: Stay with your emotions. Look at them as closely as possible while doing your best to remain detached.
Rest: Take a nap or a break. When you’re tired, you’re more likely to experience negative emotions than when you are properly rested.
Breathe: Breathe slowly to relax. The way you breathe affects your emotional state. Use breathing techniques to calm you down, or to give you more energy.
Relax: Take a few minutes to relax your muscles. Start by relaxing your jaw, the tension around your eyes and the muscles on your face. Your body affects your emotions. As you relax your body, your mind also relaxes. Bless your problems: Thank your problems. ...
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Identify the story behind your emotions: Take a pen and paper, and write down all the reasons why you have these emotions in the first place.
Write down your emotions in a journal: Take a few minutes each day to write down how you felt.
Practice mindfulness: Observe your emotions throughout the day. Meditation will help you do this. Another way is simply to engage in an activity while being fully present. As you’re doing this, observe what’s going on in your mind.
Change environment: If you’re surrounded by negativity, change your environment. Move to a different place, or reduce the time you spend with negative friends. Remove counterproductive activities: Remove or reduce the time you spend on any activity not having a positive impact on your life.
Create daily rituals: This will help you to experience more positive emotions. Meditate, exercise, repeat affirmations, create a gratitude journal, and so on.
Exercise: Exercise regularly. Exercise improves your mood and is good for your emotional and physical health.
Improve your sleep: Make sure you get enough sleep. If possible, go to bed and wake up at the same time every day.
Eat healthier food: As the saying goes, “You are what you eat.” Junk food will negatively impact your energy levels, so take steps to improve your diet. Rest: Take regular naps, or take a few minutes to relax Breathe: Learn to breathe properly.
Consult a professional: if you have deep emotional issues such as extreme low self-esteem or depression, it might be wise to consult a professional.
every situation, every moment, provides the opportunity for self-growth and development of your character. Reality keeps bringing us circumstances—sometimes I picture them as waves breaking on the shore—and we have the chance to keep merging with that reality to fit ourselves to it, to dive into those waves.
negative emotions don’t last forever. Challenging times in our life are often the events that allow us to grow as human beings. Even a complete nervous breakdown can serve as a wake-up call for people.
Self-awareness is your ability to observe objectively your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors without adding your own interpretation or story to it.
The first step to improve the way you feel is to become more aware of the emotions you experience on a regular basis.
When I won the Oscar, I thought it was a fluke. I thought everybody would find out, and they’d take it back. They’d come to my house, knocking on the door, ‘Excuse me, we meant to give that to someone else. That was going to Meryl Streep.
You think, ‘Why would anyone want to see me again in a movie? And I don’t know how to act anyway, so why am I doing this?’.
People who feel they aren’t good enough tend to have low self-esteem. They focus on what they aren’t good at while filtering out all the things they are good at.
Worse, they may even think you’re being polite, or trying to manipulate them. These people have a hard time accepting compliments. Instead of a simple thank you, they return the compliment, or downplay their role.
Remember, your brain is biased towards negativity. Adding your own bias will certainly not help you feel good about yourself. The fact is, you do most things well. Although a lack of experience, interest, or talent may explain why you aren’t doing as well as you would like to in certain areas, it has nothing to do with you not being ‘good’ enough.
Not feeling good enough is a sign of low self-esteem.
Wherever you are on the self-esteem spectrum, you can probably benefit from a boost in your self-esteem.
The second step is to keep track of your accomplishments. Not feeling good enough often results from the biased view you hold about yourself. You focus on your shortcomings, failing to acknowledge your successes. People with healthy self-esteem tend to look at themselves in a more objective way, acknowledging both their shortcomings and their strengths. To improve your self-esteem, start acknowledging all the things you’re doing well.
The idea is to show more respect towards yourself by acknowledging your multiple accomplishments.
Don’t question the sincerity of these compliments. Always assume they are genuine. The idea is to train your mind to focus on the positive things that happen in your life—they are happening whether or not you acknowledge them.
the person who made the compliment wants you to receive it, not to flush it down the toilets!
Say thank you out loud and clearly. You may discover you have the tendency to repress your feelings and end up saying thank you almost mechanically.
Show your appreciation by telling the person who complimented you how you feel. You may experience resistance. Many of us have difficulties expressing gratitude, because our pride prevents us from doing so. After all, we’re strong and don’t need anybody’s help or compliments, do we? We don’t want to feel vulnerable. If you experience resistance and find the exercise difficult, recognize this is normal.
Your ability to accept a compliment can be a good indicator of your level of self-esteem.
Accepting you’re worthy of compliments will help you boos...
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Self-esteem is a complex topic. It affects a lot of people and is often misunderstood. Overcoming low self-esteem takes time and effort.
“to live consciously means to seek to be aware of everything that bears on our actions, purposes, value, and goals—to the best of our ability, whatever that ability may be—and to behave in accordance with that which we see and know.” 2. Self-acceptance: Is choosing to value yourself, to treat yourself with respect and to stand up for your right to exist. Self-acceptance is the basis upon which self-esteem develops. 3. Self-responsibility: Is realizing no one is coming to save you and you are responsible for your life. It is accepting that you are responsible for your choices and actions. You
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low self-esteem stems from the negative perception you hold of yourself—a perception that is largely, if not entirely, based on your negative interpretations of past experiences. This distorted perception of reality leads you to experience fear and anxiety. Your family environment may have played a big part. Perhaps, your parents have repeatedly put you down, making you feel as though nothing you did was ever good enough.
Our love of being right is best understood as our fear of being wrong.
The need to defend yourself stems from your desire to protect your story (or your ego). Every time your ego is threatened, you are triggered and feel the need to defend it. I believe there are three main reasons why you are triggered. There is part of truth in what you were told. You believe there is part of truth in what you were told. A core belief you hold has been attacked.
Someone mentioned something that is true about you and it hurts.
