Long gone are the days when the fights started with, “I got the baby last night,” or, “What were you doing all day?” Either directly or indirectly, the fights increasingly revolve around who the child is, or is becoming. Projection is now possible. Identification is now possible. Which means that competitiveness, envy, disgust—all are possible, all can rear their heads. These aren’t feelings evoked by younger children. They’re brought on by other adults.
