For example, as one mother related, “Eric will do stuff, but he wants to be asked. He wants to put it on his list. It’s not something that he’s thinking about unless I get him thinking, although he’s really helpful.”6 Eric is a helper. Sharers are fully involved in parenting, but only when other commitments to work or leisure aren’t getting in the way. Slackers relax while their wives work a second shift at home. In all the unequal families Deutsch studied, “There’s an assumption that women’s schedules are freer. It’s always easier to infringe upon mother; mothers are supposed to be infringed
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