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All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership

Darcy Lockman

4.16 · Rating details · 1,142 ratings · 218 reviews

Picking up where All Joy and No Fun left off, All the Rage sets out to understand why, in an age of so-called equality, full-time working mothers still carry.

The inequity of domestic life is one of the most profound and perplexing conundrums of our time. In an era of seemingly unprecedented feminist activism, enlightenment, and change, data show that one area of gender ine ...more

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May 28, 2019 Kristy rated it it was amazing

This book literally makes me want to get divorced, buy one of those body pillows and a dog, and live alone forever. I also want to punch every man i know in the face, even the good ones, even the ones I really like.

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Apr 26, 2019 Katie rated it really liked it

This book will, in fact, fill you with ALL THE RAGE. Darcy Lockman’s nonfiction is the feminist text I didn’t know I needed. She breaks down the ways in which working mothers are drowning in the unshared task of parenting.

It genuinely changed my perspective on planning for motherhood in the future.

So many of us assume that our version of parenting will look different than that of our parents’ generation. We expect that we will have an EQUAL partnership in child rearing. Well, it turns out that p ...more

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Aug 03, 2019 Holly rated it really liked it

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What a bracing read. The penultimate chapter, titled "Successful Male Resistance," discusses the ways men avoid stepping up to the plate in their marriages. Toward its conclusion, Lockman asks one Joshua Coleman, a clinical psychologist, father, contributing editor of a magazine about parenting, and author of a book called The Lazy Husband: How to Get Men to Do More Parenting and Housework, "what makes it easy for men to be so lazy." Lockman quotes Coleman at length for two substantial paragraph What a bracing read. The penultimate chapter, titled "Successful Male Resistance," discusses the ways men avoid stepping up to the plate in their marriages. Toward its conclusion, Lockman asks one Joshua Coleman, a clinical psychologist, father, contributing editor of a magazine about parenting, and author of a book called The Lazy Husband: How to Get Men to Do More Parenting and Housework, "what makes it easy for men to be so lazy." Lockman quotes Coleman at length for two substantial paragraphs, then offers this devastating analysis and paraphrase of Coleman's statement:

I called Coleman because I knew he’d given co-parenting a book’s worth of thought, and I hoped that he’d be willing to speak freely. He was. Men’s resistance would be an abject failure if there were more men who spoke like he did (to be clear, he was not condoning his own behavior). Imagine if your children’s father said these things to you, directly and out loud: Women are easy to take advantage of, your efforts are ultimately unnecessary, the needs of our family are not worth my attention, and I’ll choose the more selfish thing. Fathers are implying every last bit of this with their resistance [to shared labor] all the time. You are easy to manipulate. These things aren’t worth my attention. I’ll choose the more selfish thing. (240)

I read a lot about feminism and relationships, and when I picked this book up, I thought it would take me less than a week to finish it, because it's less than 300 pages with big print. Instead, it took me almost a month, because it was so painful, even more painful than a book about big-picture systemic misogyny. Reading anecdote after anecdote about men displaying such selfishness and such contempt and indifference for the well-being of their partners and children was just SUCH a downer, especially since I could call up so many examples from my own life of just what the book was talking about. That's not a reason to avoid the book--that's one more reason to read it. But you can expect to feel like crap along the way.

I finished this book the same day I read a really shitty article (see: https://www.utne.com/arts/new-america... ) by a poet named Bob Hicok that asks, "Am I willing to pay a price for the equality I say I believe in?" Hicok wants you to believe by the end of the essay that the answer is yes, but it's clearly NO, or he wouldn't need to publish two versions of that shitty essay. (See also: https://www.questia.com/library/journ... )

And that's ultimately the question and answer I get from this Lockman's book: "Are men willing to pay a price for the equality they say they believe in?" No, they are not.

It sucks that that's the reality. But I guess it's good to have it out in the open, instead of pretending otherwise. ...more

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Dec 10, 2019 Josh rated it it was amazing

Relatives of mine were planning a birthday party for their toddler. The boy's mom had reserved the space, invited the friends, bought the decorations, and prepared the food, all while caring for the child. The boy's dad had ordered the cake.

Evidently, the cake order caused some strain for the dad. Let's call him Grant. Grant complained about it to his mother-in-law.

His mother-in-law said to her daughter, "Poor Grant, he's so stressed!"

Her daughter said, "Poor Grant? Why poor Grant? Because he's ...more

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May 21, 2019 Melanie rated it it was ok · review of another edition

Shelves: feminism, parenting, privileged-white-woman-whining, whining, skipped-parts-of-this-book, non-fiction

Before I started this book, I was worried that it would fill me with fury and the desire to seek a divorce. It didn't, but it really came off as preaching to the choir (dual-employed couples with child/ren), and I skimmed much of the second half because I just could not take it anymore. There were a lot of citations, including books I've read before, but it was tedious and repetitive.

Author has a bunch of anonymized case studies/interview participants but they're spread out all over the book, so Before I started this book, I was worried that it would fill me with fury and the desire to seek a divorce. It didn't, but it really came off as preaching to the choir (dual-employed couples with child/ren), and I skimmed much of the second half because I just could not take it anymore. There were a lot of citations, including books I've read before, but it was tedious and repetitive.

Author has a bunch of anonymized case studies/interview participants but they're spread out all over the book, so like, you'll read about "Miranda from Portland" or "Desiree from Kansas" three or four different times for a paragraph or two, then she'll disappear for a chapter or more, and because there are at least 20 of these disenchanted moms, they all run together while being entirely unmemorable. The whole of the book was like this, with the author popping in and out in first person, occasionally mentioning the ever enlightening George (her husband) and I just got frustrated with it.

If you're trying to get men or women or other people to take you seriously to effect social change, don't bore them to death with data or rant until you've beaten your point into a bloody pulp. My husband works full-time, I do not, and he takes on a considerable share of childrearing, not least because I have trained him, and don't emasculate or hen-peck if he doesn't match the top and bottom of the baby's outfit. He does zero housework, but we have very different standards with regards to housework, and we have children who need training in how to do chores properly. I hire a yard guy to cut the grass, and it's well worth the investment in that it frees up our time and keeps us from a chore that neither of us likes or is good at.

I recently read a book about global population dropping, and I wonder how much is directly tied into issues raised in this book (that working wives do *everything* when it comes to childrearing) so they're too burnt out to have more than 1 or 2 kids at most, and resent the ones they have. ...more

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Mar 25, 2019 BookOfCinz rated it really liked it

Shelves: self-improvement, debut, real-life-sh-t, 2019-reads, books-to-read-before-30

….women who work outside of the home shoulder 65 percent of child care responsibilities and their male partners 35 per cent. Those percentages have held steady since the year 2000. In the last twenty years, that figure has not budged...

It is the year 2019 and women are still shouldering 65% child care responsibilities. On one hand I am not shocked because women tend to do a lot on the other hand it is sad that this is what is currently happening. I read this book in shock and awe. A lot of the ...more

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Jul 21, 2019 Camryn rated it really liked it

I feel like this is very important for everyone to read, honestly. This is how stuff worked with my parents and obviously so many other parents. I don’t want it to be me. I think I noticed that men do way wya less and women do so much more and that’s one of the reasons why I wasn’t interested in marriage starting at like, thirteen. It seems so exhausting to be married to a straight cis man unless he’s like 1 out of fifty men in this book who make an active decision to make their marriage and par ...more

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Aug 07, 2019 Ang rated it it was amazing

Abandon hope, all ye who enter here.

I mean, not really. But reading books like this (and let me stress, this book is EXCELLENT) brings slamming home the casual sexism of living with (and loving, because why else would you do it?) a man in 20-fucking-19. I'm not a mother, so the childcare stuff isn't even a factor in this for me, and yet I still saw myself in these women. The chapter on HOW men avoid giving up their privilege was absolutely mind-blowing, in its familiarity.

I can't recommend this ...more

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May 20, 2019 Brittani Lenz rated it it was amazing · review of another edition

Accurate title is accurate.

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Aug 25, 2019 Catherine rated it it was amazing

Shelves: diy-canon, build-something-better, nonfiction

This book is premised on the progressive father with egalitarian values who nevertheless oppresses his wife through strategic incompetence. As such, it’s actually a very practical, useful, empathetic book that every man who plans to become a husband and father should read, but instead will be read by his resentful wife. God bless her and free her.

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Jun 06, 2019 Gwen rated it it was amazing

Shelves: feminism

if I could excerpt the whole book, I would

A few weeks ago, I was chatting with some friends about existential career questions when the topic of children came up. All of us are childfree 30-somethings, and we threw around many, many thoughts on why have (or not) children. I wish I had read Lockman's book before the conversation since she articulated all of my thoughts--and then some!--so much better than I did.

I couldn't highlight the whole book, but I wanted to remember these passages and thei ...more

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Aug 28, 2019 Christina rated it really liked it

This book makes you think HARD about gender inequality as it relates to parenting (and the rest of the world). So many different aspects of the problem are tackled, and I found myself wanting to talk about the book to so many people. She does a great job of illustrating the problem and really spelling out the roots of it. It was scary as a non-parent and at times made me second guess ever wanting to become one at all (as a woman)! But, I think nice to read before kids to really think about the c ...more

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Jul 08, 2019 Briana rated it really liked it

Shelves: source-library-2019, nonfiction

All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Parenting is one of a couple recent releases about the division of labor within the home and how women married to men are still doing the bulk of housework and childcare—regardless of whether both parents work, whether just the father works, whether just the mother works, etc. So far every book and article I’ve read on this topic has felt worth my time investment, enlightening me as to how sexism can still play out even when couples want to o All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Parenting is one of a couple recent releases about the division of labor within the home and how women married to men are still doing the bulk of housework and childcare—regardless of whether both parents work, whether just the father works, whether just the mother works, etc. So far every book and article I’ve read on this topic has felt worth my time investment, enlightening me as to how sexism can still play out even when couples want to or even believe their partnership is equal. Furthermore, though some of the research in All the Rage might be familiar to anyone who has read up on this topic, the book is not just a repeat of other books. It attempts to extend beyond the home to look at sex and gender in society and potentially explain why women are doing more work at home—whether it’s because of socialization to be nice, stereotypes that women are better carers that women buy into, an attempt to gain power within the home, or something else. So I do recommend All the Rage if you’re interested in this topic but have already read similar books, although it’s not my favorite book on the topic nor where I might recommend one start.

The author’s attempts to bring in wide-ranging research about related topics, not just how labor is divided in the home and what the consequences of that are for women’s health, their marriage, etc. are great for starting to get at the question of why labor division is so unequal, but they also make the book feel a bit disjointed. Even the subheadings are not particularly clear, and the organization of the book was not always obvious to me. I simply went along with the flow of the research and read the information as it was presented to me. Expect to make your own connections between that information and the question of unequal parenting partnerships, as the author does not always make them explicit herself.

I also did not always love the tone of the book, which can get snarky or dismissive towards men at times. I get it. The author—and a lot of women—are ticked off, and I think the tone will actually resonate with a lot of women who are reading the book because they are mad. However, many men are already defensive about this. Tweet a study about how men don’t do equal housework and watch all the replies come rolling in about how the studies are wrong or how “Well, I do tons of work! I do more than my wife!” or “I mow the lawn once a week!” So this tone probably isn’t going to be a hit with any guy who does pick up the book, and I think that’s a flaw if the goal is to make people self-reflect.

Mostly, however, I love that this book is thought-provoking, and not always in the ways readers might like. I’ve read varying reactions to the book on Goodreads (all from women) and they range from women identifying with the feeling of being burdened with nearly all the household work to women being disgusted that other women would “let” this happen to them. A lot of women feel they would “never put up with this,” but the book uncomfortably makes the reader think about why women do. It might be because, studies suggest, both women and men think men are doing half the work when they’re only doing about 35%. People think their relationships are equal when they’re not. Or it might be because women do feel some happiness at being told they’re a “good wife” or “good mother” when they run the household; they’ve been socialized to think that. Or it might be because, as the author puts a bit flippantly, are you really going to get a divorce because your husband—whom you love and who loves you and, you know, does some work sometimes—didn’t change a diaper? Of course it’s not about the diaper, but the point is that that there are kinds of social factors that help women, and men, rationalize women’s being burdened with all the work, and while it’s easy to look at this situation from the outside and say, “That will never happen to me,” the horrifying truth of the book is that it happens all the time, and uprooting life with a divorce is not an easy option for a lot of women.

Related to this point, the idea that women “let” themselves be left with all the work, I like that the book acknowledges that too many times solutions to problems like this put the onus on women to fix sexism and injustice. If women would just do something differently, the theory is, if they would just be assertive enough or ask men to do the chores enough or just…do some magic thing, then men would do more housework and childcare. It shouldn’t work that way. Having to repeatedly ask someone to do work in their own home is labor of its own, and it’s not the solution most women are looking for, particularly when they might be called “nagging” as a result. However, the book does suggest that the couples with the most equal partnerships did have to constantly, actively work at it together—which is at least slightly different from only the woman working at it.

You don’t have to be a parent or even married to find this book interesting and information that might be useful to you. If you want an equal partnership now or in the future or if you’re just interested in feminism or family relationships, I think you’ll get something out of All the Rage. ...more

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Aug 02, 2019 Mothwing rated it really liked it · review of another edition

Shelves: crocky-would-love, politics, 2019, gender-and-sex, main-character-female, abuse-as-backstory, audiobook, fierce-femmes, parenting

Scary stuff. I am so happy that I am raising my child with a woman because I have no time for the bullshit dynamic typical for heterosexual parenting. Like, in what world do you live if you don't have the feeling that you are responsible for your children 24/7? That's what being a parent means.
Not to most heterosexual couples, apparently:

- Parity of childcare tasks is most likely when the mother works full time and the dad is unemployed and at home. PARITY.
- Couples believe that household cho Scary stuff. I am so happy that I am raising my child with a woman because I have no time for the bullshit dynamic typical for heterosexual parenting. Like, in what world do you live if you don't have the feeling that you are responsible for your children 24/7? That's what being a parent means.
Not to most heterosexual couples, apparently:

- Parity of childcare tasks is most likely when the mother works full time and the dad is unemployed and at home. PARITY.
- Couples believe that household chores are shared equally (that is to say, both couples are of this opinion) when women do 65% of household chores and men 35%.
- Even in couples where household chores were distributed equally before having a child, after having a child mothers gain 16h of household work per week on top of their usual chores and men 1h. ONE HOUR.
- the default is still that women give up their own needs due to a combination of expectations of themselves, the social construct of motherhood as an eternal giver, and the fact that they are usually brought up to place other people's needs above their own.
- "gender legacy couple"s were equals previous to having a child, but childcare defaults to the woman- every aspect. It's all the "He's happy to do it if I ask" couples. Like that shit would fly in any other area of life! These are the couples with Mums who do all the planning and scheduling and emotional and other invisible labour to facilitate their partner's participation in their own parenting.

This makes me so livid. How can you just give up fatherhood like that?
Why do so many men simply choose to do so?
Parenthood is a gift, and one that so many people would give up so much to have. Of course it is seductive to simply let the person who has the chore of nursing be default responsible, but it is so worth it to fight that default and be a parent.

In my lesbian relationship, my partner breastfeeds and while I did work full-time in the first nine months of my daughter's life, I still did everything I could to be a primary caregiver as well. Of course it would have been easy to leave all the work to her and make the baby her responsibility, but that does not change the fact that she is my responsibility, too, because I AM A PARENT.
We're not immune to the maelstrom, I do far less night time parenting than my wife does and this is not 100% down to the fact that my wife nurses, there's also a lot of "but you work" mixed in. Still, compared to heterosexual couples, we're doing practically the same kind of work.

And those I'd love to sit down and tell them that the things that they take for granted, like "inherent roles" or some nonsense, are conventions and not set in stone. There IS NO MOTHER'S INSTINCT. Or at least not the way people seem to think. There is no magical whatever that is exclusive to only The Mother(TM), not even in the first months. Of course the relationships can be different, just like, you know, relationships between people always differ. It's all learned behaviour, it's all interaction, it's all a human connection like other connections only more so because you're responsible for an entire new human being. As such, the person or people that your infant finds themselves most dependent on is/are going to be their primary caregiver. Period. That can be people of any gender or relationship to the child.

Of course THAT is miraculous, of course THAT is magical, and just because you can explain it doesn't mean it's not still a miracle.

But it does mean that it is worth fighting for. ...more

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Jul 05, 2019 Jenna rated it really liked it

It will make you angry. She does an excellent job providing detailed research on the current situation of inequality of domestic unpaid labor. If you are a mom under the age of 40, your head will probably get sore from all of the nodding in agreement. You will probably shout "Amen!" more than once. Only four stars because there are no practical steps to improve equality; mostly just a reminder of where we are and keep the conversation going. ...more

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Jul 02, 2019 Jeanne rated it it was amazing · review of another edition

As a Millennial mother of three currently going through a bitter divorce, this book hit all the notes for me. So many of the things I struggled with in my marriage are illustrated here as issues other women are facing in their own relationships. I found a validation for my feelings, a better understanding of why my ex did the things he did (or didn't do), and felt better in the knowledge that I wasn't alone. Also depressed and, yes, rage at the current state of gender inequality in households ac ...more

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May 22, 2020 Sam rated it really liked it

This book makes me so happy it’s never been my dream to have children lol.

As the proud aunt of seven nieces and nephews though I was inspired to pick this book up after observing the frustrations of my older sisters with their spouses post-kids and the dreaded “martyr mom” syndrome.

While men are no longer expected to be traditional breadwinners and most people readily endorse a sense of basic egalitarianism, women (even working moms) are still performing the vast majority of household and chil ...more

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Jul 06, 2019 Liz rated it really liked it

Before I started reading this book, I was gnashing my teeth in frustration at my husband's utter detachment from scheduling social activities for us as a family or a couple, despite regularly hanging out with his guy friends. Yet I also realized that we have a much more equitable partnership than many parents, and after reading the book, I can identify some concrete reasons why: 1) I am the breadwinner; 2) I travel internationally and he has no additional help while I'm gone; 3) We never fell in ...more

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Jul 17, 2019 morgan rated it liked it

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This book title is extremely indicative of how you will feel reading this book. True to its title this book examines the myth of equal partnership in parenting, and definitely does so in depth. That’s where it went a little sideways for me. I definitely wanted the in depth examination, but I would have liked to see it balanced out with more first hand accounts, rather than just studies and statistics which made it feel dry.

After all the anger and ...more

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Sep 16, 2020 Sara (onourshelves) rated it it was amazing

Shelves: nonfiction, feminist

I wasn't convinced I wanted to read this book, even though it was on my list, but I am so glad I did. This book is all about the gender dynamics of parenthood, and how women tend to take on more responsibilities in the house after they have children, while men tend to take on less. Genuinely, it was a really enlightening, yet frustrating read. Some of the important points are that
1. Women are not biologically more likely to be a nurturing parent
2. Women and men tend to overestimate the amount of ...more

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Jun 05, 2019 Rivka Uster rated it it was amazing

There is so much to unpack and reflect upon in this book. It definitely allowed me to finally “put my finger on” what and why some of my frustrations exist. I have begun reflecting on my own behavior and how some of it might be implicitly giving my husband a pass in areas that are problematic. I listened to the audiobook book and the narrator was fantastic, though, I think I’ll go back to the physical book itself to take another look at the data.

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Dec 03, 2020 Charlotte Pearson rated it it was amazing

this is a horror novel and has made me question the value of pursuing male partnership entirely ,, I would like to unread this thanks

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Apr 08, 2020 Rebekah added it

Shelves: do-you-like-to-be-mad, gave-up

Okay, have not finished, do not anticipate finishing, willing to be surprised by self. Not much in the mood for "do you like to be mad" genre in isolation, plus the gender inequality fury has seemed less relatable than ever over the past month of my being incapacitated by two broken wrists and my spouse picking up literally everything. All library checkouts are indefinite, tho, so you never know! ...more

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Jul 10, 2019 Tiffany added it

I rarely give 5 stars. I recomend this to every parent.

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Oct 06, 2019 Emily rated it really liked it

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There is a lot to think and get angry about in this book; seeing it all laid out in a few concise chapters is powerful stuff. I hope, but am not at all optimistic, that more dads will get their hands on this and really let it sink in. And I'm also glad it doesn't lay the blame for the problem solely at the feet of dads; the author investigates how U.S. work culture/public policy and women's acceptance of ever higher parenting standards contribute in big ways as well.

I was a little worried that There is a lot to think and get angry about in this book; seeing it all laid out in a few concise chapters is powerful stuff. I hope, but am not at all optimistic, that more dads will get their hands on this and really let it sink in. And I'm also glad it doesn't lay the blame for the problem solely at the feet of dads; the author investigates how U.S. work culture/public policy and women's acceptance of ever higher parenting standards contribute in big ways as well.

I was a little worried that I wouldn't find as much to relate to in here because I'm not a parent, but there's plenty that reminded me of my own childhood and plenty about gender socialization in general that is good food for thought no matter your gender or family/relationship status. Lots of references to Mother Nature: Maternal Instincts and How They Shape the Human Species, another book I loved that deconstructed so many myths about what women are "hardwired" to do. It may have been centered around the labor of child rearing, but in explaining that it explores so many assumptions about how we live, what we deserve, who we put first, etc, where those come from and how we might push back against them.

One issue I had with the book was its focus on upper-middle class concerns; the author makes a point of noting that the issues she researched, in both academic studies and anecdata, cut across income lines. But the examples kept coming back to things like summer camps and bringing the "right" food to school, stories about mommy groups meeting up at the coffee shop, or portrayals work in terms of career fulfillment and choices that many parents don't have. The occasional examples from lower-income families didn't feel like much of a counterweight against that image of what parenting and jobs look like. I also realized in reading this how much more careful my social circle is about gender language, taking care to be inclusive of different genders/orientations...I felt a bit itchy when she'd write something equating gender with anatomy, or refer to people as "gay" or "straight" because they were in a same- or different-gender relationship. I can't really call that a flaw because it is by design a book about cisgender men and women in mostly hetero relationships, but it bugs me enough to want to give a heads up to other readers. ...more

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Aug 18, 2019 Patricia rated it it was amazing

This book has helped me to understand myself. Sixty years old, with 30 years of marriage under my belt - I still get so peeved to see a morning cereal bowl in the sink waiting for me to wash it every day. I am now working full-time while my husband has been retired for two years. We've always divided duties and we survived the parenting years - yet that bowl. He has done more around the house since retiring but almost expects a gold star for doing so, or at least acknowledgement. This book has r ...more

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May 23, 2019 Scout rated it it was amazing · review of another edition

I would recommend this book to anyone, not just current and prospective parents -- as evidenced by the fact that I, a twenty-four-year-old with no immediate plans of starting a family, got a lot out of it.

Be prepared to be distressed and depressed by the facts that Darcy Lockman lays out so methodically. She writes plainly and compellingly, using the results of sociological and psychological studies, countless interviews with parents, and her own personal experiences to make her points.

I'd be ve ...more

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Jun 15, 2019 Amanda rated it it was amazing

My husband was one of the equal partners interviewed in this book. Even as part of a couple that pushed unusually successfully against many of the deeply rooted structural problems described in Darcy’s book, I was surprised and enlightened to see some experiences I had interpreted as more individual struggles around housework, career and childcare contextualized and framed as part of the bigger problem of gender inequality.

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Oct 18, 2019 Talitha rated it really liked it

This should be required reading for all parents, or even all adults. Heck, we need a children’s version!! It’s simultaneously relieving to know that some of what you’ve been feeling isn’t “all in your head”, while also enraging that it is actually reality. Hoping that this new and more full awareness of the systems and culture that create unequal relationships in the home will help us find our way to more equal footing.

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Sep 30, 2020 Brianna rated it liked it · review of another edition

Shelves: nonfiction

Men don’t do more because the world has made it difficult for them to do so.

I don’t normally write a book and a half for my reviews, but oof this book lit a quiet rage inside of me. I like to think that I’m pretty luck with my husband – he does the dishes and laundry without complaint and he lets me sleep, in on a Saturday morning and takes the lead with our son. HOWEVER, this book highlights SO MANY things that I couldn’t put into words.

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Darcy Lockman is a former journalist turned psychologist whose writing has appeared in The New York Times and the Washington Post, among others. She lives with her husband and daughters in Queens.

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Brooklyn Zoo: The Education of a Psychotherapist

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“Joan Williams at the Center for WorkLife Law said "My strongest advice to young women: Don't just try to find a man who's supportive of women. That's a threshold. But consider, what is his attitude toward himself and ambition? That's what determines your future. If he's ambitious and feels entitled to that ambition, you're going to end up embattled, marginalized, and divorced.” — 0 likes

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