Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

by Esther Perel

Today, we turn to one person to provide what an entire village once did: a sense of grounding, meaning, and continuity. At the same time, we expect our committed relationships to be romantic as well as emotionally and sexually fulfilling. Is it any wonder that so many relationships crumble under the weight of it all?

No one can bring us to the boiling point as quickly as our partner (except maybe our parents, the original locus of dependent rage).