Your Erroneous Zones

by Wayne W. Dyer

Outlaw self-denial unless it is absolutely necessary—and it rarely is.

You can break the connecting chain between what others think, say and do, and your own self-worth. Talk to yourself when you encounter disapproval. “This is her stuff. I expect her to behave that way. It has nothing to do with me.” This approach will eliminate the self-hurt that you inflict when you connect someone else’s feeling with your own thoughts.

“My feeling guilty will not change the past, nor will it make me a better person.”

Anytime you fall into the trap of “What should I wear,” or “How should I do it,” you’re giving up a chunk of yourself.

What we’re talking about here has nothing to do with anarchy. No one wants to destroy society, but many of us would like to give the individual more freedom within it, freedom from meaningless musts and silly shoulds.

Samuel Butler said, “The man who lets himself be bored is even more contemptible than the bore.”