On the other hand, when we experience that a need is unmet, there is a sense of deficit and disturbance: something missing, something wrong. The body and the mind are agitated out of their resting state into the Reactive mode, or “red zone.” The body fires up into fight, flight, or freeze reactions, shaking up its immune, hormonal, cardiovascular, and digestive systems. In the mind, there is a sense of fear, frustration, and hurt—umbrella terms related to our needs for safety, satisfaction, and connection. This is stress, distress, and dysfunction.
