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You were not put on earth to be the energy source of a vampire. You are here to bring your light to the world.
The events you experience are all part of a plan to bring your soul closer to enlightenment. And a much higher vibration. As your soul moves in that direction, you become more acutely aware of the soul’s journey.
essential that all empaths understand the dynamics at play when it comes to energy vampires. Without this knowledge—and the information on how to heal from vampire encounters—you will never live up to your full potential. You will never be as healthy, energetic, joyful, or loving as you have the ability to be. Instead you will stay mired in the wounds of your past.
tribes wound their members with three archetypal wounds: shame, abandonment, and betrayal.
we grew up in a war zone, we’d likely learn to duck and take cover from bombs and gunshots. And then our children would be more likely to automatically be overreactive even when they are safe.
As an empath, you are here to transform not only the wounds from your lifetime but also the legacy of pain. You are here to end the pain.
When a relationship works for mutual benefit—whether that’s creating a home, a family, a business, or being of service to those in need—an alchemical magic happens. The unbridled healing energy of two or more people working in harmony for good creates a third energy that is greater than what each person could do individually. This is the quantum healing energy that Jesus was talking about when he said, “Whenever two or more of you are gathered in my name, there will I be also.”
If we happen to get in a relationship with someone who isn’t in the relationship for healthy reasons, our wounds become activated.
So many empaths have an unhealed inner child who has been trying to win love through service and sacrifice for most of our lives that we tend to take on too much responsibility for the health of a relationship. We’re so used to over-giving that if someone gives 25 percent compared to our 75 percent, we feel like we’ve finally arrived in relationship nirvana. OMG—he put down the toilet seat. He must love me.
we’re apt to stay overly long in relationships in which we over-give and under-receive, especially when the relationship looks good from the outside. After all, there’s certainly a societal benefit to appearing normal.
A normal person will own their own stuff and work to fix it.
And very often they don’t even follow our advice. And nothing changes. They just wanted a hit of our energy, or a voice on the other end of the line telling them what they already know. Or else they want us to do something for them.
If there were no drama, the energy vampires would have to look at the spiritual side of life. But they are afraid of it. Trauma and drama are comfortable. This is why the mainstream news cycle is so negative. It’s familiar and comfortable. And it sells product. It is also addictive. There is always something to fix. Something outside yourself to focus on so that you never have to look inside—the only place where your true power lies. The place where no one else can do the work for you.
And second, your wounds have created in you a powerful desire to be accepted and an overwhelming belief that you shouldn’t hurt other people’s feelings.
While our initial response to their inevitable ill treatment of us is anger, hurt, and disappointment, we quickly squelch these natural feelings and replace them with guilt—something we learned to do in the past, either way far back in another lifetime or in childhood. Or, more likely, both.
We make the mistake of thinking that energy vampires are as sensitive as we are. We don’t want to risk hurting their feelings, so in order to protect them and their feelings—and because we’re so darn good at solving problems in all the other areas of our lives—we keep giving them our energy and draining ourselves rather than risk standing up to them, standing up for ourselves, and owning how angry, hurt, and disappointed we really feel. And then ending the relationship.
We take on the responsibility of trying to convince them to get help and to change their ways. But this is a dead-end street, because they don’t change. What has to change in every ...
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the sooner you give up on them and choose you, the healthier, happier, and more effective you will become.
Sometimes the energy drain in the direction of the vampire is so striking that you literally feel like falling asleep when you’re around them.
cortisol.
cytokines.
Chronically high cortisol levels also wreak havoc with hormone levels. Libido often goes away when someone is under stress.
“chi”
When there is excess cortisol, estrogen gets metabolized into an additional stress hormone—especially during perimenopause.
souls cry out to be heard.
COGNITIVE DISSONANCE
Or the fact that he’s really good in bed.
Women describe not only anxiety and depression, but also brain fog
toxic shame produces an inflammatory chemical known as IL-6—
autoimmune
adverse childhood events favor a pro-inflammatory environment both inside and outside the body! And this drives the body toward pathology unless the pattern is changed.
There is evidence to suggest that one of the true risk factors for immune disorders, e.g., what is called autoimmunity, is the childhood experience of having our survival linked to conforming to expectations that are actually a violation of who we really are.
Researchers, including Maté and Dr. Lawrence LeShan, make the argument that those of us who twist ourselves into pretzels to please others or who otherwise suppress our own emotional needs in service to others are at particular risk for developing immune system problems such as Hashimoto’s thyroiditis, fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, etc. The reason for this is that the immune system confirms what we already believe—as I already suggested above. If you believe that you are worthy and lovable, your immune system will confirm that. If, on the other hand, you are depressed and feel worthless, you
So our job, as empaths who want to make the biggest healing impact we can and live our best possible lives, is to be willing to do the work necessary to upgrade our beliefs and thoughts—and feel and release any emotions that haven’t been fully felt and named.
“Please don’t do that, it would kill Mom”? This is borderline territory.
What every vampire has in common is covert aggression and manipulation for personal gain. They are fighting for the upper hand. Period. End of story.
Some people are full-out vampires. Others have certain vampire traits.
Their self-esteem is derived from personal gain outside of themselves—how they look, what kind of house they live in, what kind of car they drive.
someone else who is “doing it” to them.
“It’s very easy to diagnose a borderline. They screw you over, rip you off, commit whatever transgression, and then they blame you for it.”
Full-on narcissists can be hypersexual and very good at sex.
Chances are also good that no one else in your family understood how powerfully manipulative these individuals were. Or how they adversely affected you.
Do you remember trying to please them in order to protect yourself?
Did they scare you or abuse you in some way? Did you end up giving them your power because nobody told you how to stand up to them?
You must assume that he/she will never change.
indifference, and there is no narcissistic supply with indifference.
Put yourself first, stop waiting for the miracle, and get on with your life. Period. End of story. You really have to be done. You can’t believe for a single minute that change is possible. That is the only way.
The only way to heal and become the force of love you were meant to be is to make sure you give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Treat yourself as well as you treat everyone else. Quench your own thirst first before sharing with others. Find the love inside. The kind that never fails you.
“I pledge allegiance to myself and to my Soul for which I stand. I honor my goodness, my gifts, and my talents. I commit to remaining loyal to myself from this moment forward for all of my days.”
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