Text Me When You Get Home: The Evolution and Triumph of Modern Female Friendship

by Kayleen Schaefer

We accept this state of constant fear as just another part of being a girl.

I’m always with you. I won’t forget about you when you walk away. I am here when I’m standing in front of you or any other time you need me, no matter what.

“Whether through our whole lives, or through decades at the beginning of them—and, often, at the end of them, after divorces or deaths—it’s our friends who move us into new homes, friends with whom we buy or care for pets, friends with whom we mourn death and experience illness, friends alongside whom some us may raise children and see them into adulthood,”

And yet, the idea of relying on friendship is in tension with the fact that these relationships are unrecognized and unstructured. There are no licenses or certificates that make them legit or guide how we conduct them. We could lose each other at any moment.

For me, these are the love-drunk, sometimes actually drunk, near-exhausted thoughts I have to send out before I fall asleep.

“The big fights are about jealousy and seeing that your friend has done all of the stuff that you never managed to pull off and all of the competitiveness that’s been going on,”