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April 7 - April 9, 2018
Nelson says usually sixty to seventy percent of the women there have a hard time recalling their moms having friends.
They didn’t call that a catfight. They didn’t even call it a brawl. They called it a debate. But when we do it, it’s a catfight . . . and [people say] we hate each other, and that is just not the case.”
If you look at it, it’s absurd to say that one whole group of people is anything. It’s sort of the hallmark of bias. The hallmark of prejudice is to say that any group is something negative.”
“People are bad. People are kind. People are good. We’re all humans, and this is a stereotype. I think it’s been very damaging and we have to dismantle it because it’s not helping girls to have anyone care about them or their problems.”
I was hoping that in college I’d meet people whom I wanted to befriend for better reasons than not wanting to be alone. But feeling like people want you around is powerful.
“More and more people want their romantic partner to be their best friend,”
“When you’re not boyfriend-shopping, you’re able to step back and see other girls who are killing it and think, ‘God, I want to be around her.’”
This search—and standing with other women—felt more urgent after the election of Donald Trump as the forty-fifth president of the United States.
Before Trump was elected president, being a feminist wasn’t something that connected me to other women. If anyone asked, I would have said I was a feminist, but it wasn’t something I ever mentioned or planned any political activism around.
“Women led the resistance, and everyone followed.”
A country so clearly governed and controlled by men isn’t going to be realigned overnight,
Life hasn’t gone in the order I assumed it would, but what’s happened instead has given me so many astonishing experiences and friendships I never could have scripted and am grateful for.
