Text Me When You Get Home: The Evolution and Triumph of Modern Female Friendship

by Kayleen Schaefer

We accept this state of constant fear as just another part of being a girl. We text each other when we get home

other, I’m always with you. I won’t forget about you when you walk away. I am here when I’m standing in front of you or any other time you need me, no matter what.

My friends are brilliant, funny, fearless, wise, and generous. We champion each other in e-mails, in texts, in congratulatory flowers, or simply by saying how much we trust each other.

These friendships are marked by all of the signposts of romantic relationships, except they’re platonic. But they are love stories, complete with lingering dinners, lots of talk about how wonderful we think one another is, and an understanding that this is a continuing courtship—we’re not letting the other person go.

When I see my girlfriends, I don’t love them because of any trade of services I expect to get from them. I love them because they’re there.

Text me when you get home. Tell me you’re safe.

I’m always here for you. Let’s keep talking.

It’s about taking friendship as seriously as any other relationship and not thinking about friendship as a plan B to tide you over until you get married or meet a romantic partner.”

Because romantic relationships are

fleeting, and messy and Valentine’s Day makes a lot of people feel miserable. But friendships are EVERYTHING.”

adult women are more likely to be asked if they have a boyfriend than a best friend and to wear an engagement ring instead of a BFF charm.

This understanding and acceptance we have with our best friends, I think, is only becoming more remarkable—and something more people are attuned to and appreciative of, whether they see it on television or with their own soulmates.

My friends are my soulmates, and I love them all. I want the best for them in their lives.”

No matter how old we are, or what our lives look like, the women around us are essential.