Text Me When You Get Home: The Evolution and Triumph of Modern Female Friendship

by Kayleen Schaefer

“It was the first thing I ever consumed that looked at the way female friendship can be glorious and can be complicated and a worse betrayal than something romantic,”

When Julia died, Stephie was bothered by some people not understanding how important Julia was to her, as if you weren’t supposed to mourn best friends with the intensity you do family members.

“You’re expected to be hurtling toward this goal of finding a partner and you’re supposed to be happy for anyone who achieves that goal. But of course there’s a feeling of loss, but you don’t talk about that because you’re supposed to be one hundred percent happy.”

It can hurt to break up with a friend just as much, if not more, than to break up with a lover, but women don’t grieve these losses as publicly. When boys break our hearts we cry into pints of ice cream, burn their stuff, or turn the pain into Lemonade.