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will, by showing care, respect, knowledge, and responsibility, our love satisfies.
True love does not always lead to happily ever after, and even when it does, sustaining love still takes work.
In actuality, true love thrives on the difficulties.
“A soul connection is a resonance between two people who respond to the essential beauty of each other’s individual natures, behind their
facades, and who connect on a deeper level.
While a heart connection lets us appreciate those we love just as they are, a soul connection opens up a further dimension—seeing and loving them for who they could be, and for who we could become under their influence.”
In truth, true love is all about work.
The essence of true love is mutual recognition—two individuals seeing each other as they really are.
They saw what they wanted to see rather than what was really there. True love is a different story.
True love accepts the person who now is without qualifications, but with a sincere and unwavering commitment to help him to achieve his goals of self-unfoldment—which we may see better than he does.”
True love is unconditional, but to truly flourish it requires an ongoing commitment to constructive struggle and change.
Men who want to love and do not know how must first come to voice, must learn to let their hearts speak—and then to speak truth.
Choosing to be fully honest, to reveal ourselves, is risky.
“Love is letting go of fear.”
NO MATTER HOW often we turn our minds and hearts away—or how stubbornly we refuse to believe in its magic—true love exists.
True love appears only when our hearts are ready.
Wounded hearts turn away from love because they do not want to do the work of healing necessary to sustain and nurture love.
Many men, especially, often turn away from true love and choose relationships in which they can be emotionally withholding when they feel like it but still receive love from someone else.
We sacrifice our old selves in order to be changed by love and we surrender to the power of the new self.
Even though we are more likely to be hurt by someone we know than a stranger, our fear is directed toward the unknown and the unfamiliar.
Death becomes, then, not an end to life but a part of living.
“Death is not a stranger to me. He is an old, old acquaintance.” It takes courage to befriend death. We find that courage in life through loving.
Our first home in the womb is also a grave where we await the coming of life. Our first experience of living is a moment of resurrection, a movement out of the shadows and
into the light. When we watch a child physically coming out of the womb we know we are in the presence of the miraculous.
“I do not mean to be sentimental about suffering—but people who cannot suffer can never grow up, can never discover who they are.”
Growing up is, at heart, the process of learning to take responsibility for whatever happens in your life. To choose growth is to embrace a love that heals.
Life without communion in love with others would be less fulfilling no matter the extent of one’s self-love.
“there is no fear in love,” we understand the necessity of choosing courageous thought and action.
“perfect love casts out fear.” This is our reminder that even if fear exists it can be released by the experience of perfect love.
The alchemy of perfect love is such that it offers to us all a love that is...
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The practice of loving is the healing force that brings sustained peace. It is the practice of love that transforms. As one gives and receives love, fear is let go.
As long as a man remains in a state of psychological development in which his mother is the most important woman to him, he cannot
mature as a man.
A man’s eros, his capacity for love and relatedness, must be freed from attachment to the mother, and able to reach out to a woman who is his contemporary; otherwise he re...
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In fact, most women know that a man who genuinely loves his mother is likely to be a better friend, partner, or mate than a man who has always been overly dependent on his mother, expecting her to unconditionally meet all his needs.
understanding that the journey toward self-actualization and spiritual growth is an arduous one, full of challenges.
Woundedness is not a cause for shame, it is necessary for spiritual growth and awakening.
that to be wounded could be a blessing.
“Shame is the most disturbing emotion we ever experience directly about ourselves, for in the moment of shame we feel deeply divided from ourselves. Shame is like a wound made by an unseen hand, in response to defeat, failure or rejection.
At the same moment that we feel most disconnected, we long to embrace ourselves once more, to
feel reu...
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However, healing happens when he is able to embrace the wound as a blessing and assume responsibility for his actions.
The story of Jacob reminds us that embracing our wound is the way to heal.
