White men, of course, are also racially fragile, but I have not seen their fragility manifest itself in cross-racial discussions as actual crying. Their fragility most commonly shows up as varying forms of dominance and intimidation, including these: • Control of the conversation by speaking first, last, and most often • Arrogant and disingenuous invalidation of racial inequality via “just playing the devil’s advocate” • Simplistic and presumptuous proclamations of “the answer” to racism (“People just need to . . . ”) • Playing the outraged victim of “reverse racism” • Accusations that the
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