This Is Me

by Chrissy Metz

Because confidence is really trust in yourself, right? It has nothing to do with what someone else thinks of you; it’s what you think of you. And as we collectively share our truths, I believe we are placing deposits into our own confidence bank. Not only does sharing your truth help other people, but then you feel good and come to realize your value. When you then build on that value and continue to be a positive person, you can be a light for others in getting out of their own way.

“We all have a purpose,” she said. “Some people are the tall oak trees, and some people are the beautiful bushes. But everyone has a purpose. There is nobody here on earth who doesn’t have a path or a purpose. An innate destiny. Every human being who comes, comes called.”

I think even the strongest women forget how tough they really are sometimes.

What I have learned is that hurt people hurt people. I have the honor of meeting a lot of people these days, and when we go deep as we share, I see how that truth, hurt people hurt people, resonates.

As adults, we sometimes call this the Compare and Despair trap, where you look at someone else’s life and become envious or feel inadequate. We can’t know what other people have gone through or what’s really behind that Instagram post.

Anxiety is one of the worst things you can experience in your whole life. The more you resist, the more it persists. I learned pretty quickly that I had to lean in to my anxiety. And accept it. Or try to.

Don’t let people talk you out of your success, because many people are conditioned to have lowered expectations about what life can offer. If you’re from a town where everyone is a bricklayer or a miner and you want to make music, it sounds ridiculous to them. They can’t think in bigger and broader strokes.

When you’re given something good, you sometimes wait for the other shoe to drop.

We often snap back or lash out because our egos are hurt. We often won’t do things like apologize because our egos won’t let us.