So now, I have a new system I keep reminding myself of by sharing it with my friends. It’s based on the acronym HALT, used in self-care in cases of depression. “Girlfriend, before you text him, ask yourself: Are you hungry? Are you angry? Are you lonely? Are you tired?! HALT! HALT! HALT! Don’t text him if the answer is yes to any of those questions!” Because I know well from my own dating experience that I need to ask myself if I genuinely like this person or if I am trying to fill a void because I am frustrated in my life about something, or simply lonely.
