This Is Me

by Chrissy Metz

It was only once I stopped looking for outside validation, and looked inward instead, that I realized I have all I need to fly.

Our true happiness is inside of us. Like me, everything you need to fly—to soar—has been inside you all along. Just as you are, you’re enough.

Because confidence is really trust in yourself, right? It has nothing to do with what someone else thinks of you; it’s what you think of you. And

You have to be the one to decide what it is you want to give. It isn’t always about money. It’s your energy, it’s your time, and it’s your love. Those of us who are fortunate have to set boundaries, because others will imagine what you can give them and hold you accountable for that. Until their imagined need becomes a debt you owe them.

“We all have a purpose,” she said. “Some people are the tall oak trees, and some people are the beautiful bushes. But everyone has a purpose. There is nobody here on earth who doesn’t have a path or a purpose. An innate destiny. Every human being who comes, comes called.”

But I eventually realized Ursula is where it’s at. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Layers. She is complicated, y’all.

We’re made from love, with love, to love.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” That always got me. We are not taught that we are limitless and fantastic just the way we are. We are told, “You’re not enough,” and “You’re too much of this.” Being who you are is enough. You don’t have to become a success, because you already are one. Let go of your fear and dare to be your greatest, truest self. Because the world needs you.

Again, what people think about you is none of your business. You do what makes you happy, and you can’t control how it makes other people feel. It’s your life. Why would you live for anybody else? The whole point of us being here is to be ourselves.

If you can’t love yourself for who you are right now, you’ll never get to the place you’re meant to be.