As we discussed early on, statements such as the following—no matter how well intentioned—invalidate the other person’s experience: “That’s not true—you look great!” “Here’s what you need to do . . .” “Don’t worry about what they think.” “Hey, just let it go! It’s not worth letting it ruin your day.” “It will all work out in the end.” “It could be worse.” “Don’t worry. You’ll meet the right person some day.” Giving unsolicited advice or assurance—especially before you validate the other person’s emotions—trivializes their experience.
