“I get why you’re feeling the way you are.” It’s important to note that this is not the same as saying “you’re right” or “I agree.” You can validate any emotion in any situation as long as you understand the other person’s perspective. While it may not seem like it at first, most people’s reactions (even the seemingly irrational ones) make perfect sense once you truly understand where that person is coming from. You may need to think about their background, their fears, their hopes, the fact that they might not have all the details, etc., but more often than not, you’ll find that their
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