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“When it stopped being perfect, I stopped, too.”
The genius in this first lie is subtle. It’s not “when” it isn’t perfect, because that hints at the reality that it won’t be.
It’s persistent and particularly dangerous because it masquerades as excellence.
One is marked FINISHED and leads to untold adventures, opportunities, and stories. One is marked PERFECTIONISM and leads to a solid brick wall of frustration, shame, and incomplete hopes.
You’re too old. You’re too young. You’re too busy. You have too many goals and don’t know which one to focus on. You don’t have enough money or support. Someone else has already done the exact thing you want to do.
Not only did he not do the race, he quit everything that was already in motion. That’s how powerfully destructive a wrong-sized goal is.
That tends to end one of two ways: you miss your goal and give up, or you hit your goal and are so spent that you give up.
you take it from something else. To be good at one thing you have to be bad at something else.
Perfectionism believes that the harder something is, the more miserable something is, the better it is.
Those are all words you could use to describe cauliflower.
Not really?
It doesn’t do either of us any good if I teach you something that increases your satisfaction but decreases your performance success.
what kind of fun moves you, whether it’s moving toward a rosy future or avoiding a grim eventuality,
The second doesn't sound fun tho?
Parents with two kids will understand this exercise because what motivates one kid bores another.
Perfectionism only gets loud when people get moving.
Who’s quality level
Whose?
dryly write,
Unexpectedly, it will move from destruction to distraction.
A hiding place is an activity you focus on instead of your goal. A noble obstacle is a virtuous-sounding reason for not working toward a finish.
Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon
Omg its a real phrase. Portia de rossi must know of this...
I didn’t say never; I said later.
and just think about what they could have done if they really wanted to.
The Secret of NIMH and
As i remember those rats stole a lot
a noble obstacle is an attempt to make your goal harder than it has to be so you don’t have to finish, but can still look respectable.
You know you’re employing an “if . . . then” noble obstacle if you are only offering yourself two extreme options.
Remember, perfectionism has no sense of gray, things are only black or white. You do it perfectly or you don’t do it at all.
“What’s your iTunes password?” they’ll ask, but I don’t know because I keep creating a new one every time I download an app because I forget the old one.
Y u call me out like this
I’m no longer allowed in antique stores in Middle Tennessee.
Is this tangent realy necessary
“For something to count, it has to be difficult.”
One of mine is “If it doesn’t come easily, it’s not worth doing.”
Lol the exact opposite of the other one
Another secret rule I live my life by is “Success is bad.”
happy, infectious
Uh thats the text of the song and its kind of bleak? How is the message hidden
He clearly thought success was bad, and that after you’ve made a certain arbitrary amount of income, you were no longer able to sleep well.
Yeah I've heard that a lot too but more in the context of income inequality. Like be a CEO, just don't be a billionare
and that hurts.
So dump a couple mill on charity problem solved
when either outcome makes you unhappy.
His secret rule tells him he’s lucky anyone would hire him at all.
One of perfectionism’s
What happened to these margins
“What I’m naturally talented at doesn’t count.”
If you don’t have any information of your own, someone else
It’s what happened next.
A click bait was coming
Special effects.
And love story
Ranch dressing
That's Not on a big mac tho?
Perfectionism uses these shrinking levels of success as proof that things aren’t going well.
little data received, but not obsessed on, goes a long way toward changing things.
It wasn’t the restaurant’s fault. They didn’t want to list the calories; they were forced by law to put them on there.
There is a looooot of diet talk in this book
Data kills denial, which prevents disaster.
meand
read 7.9 of the 8 Harry Potter books.
Uhhhhhh there are seven books tho?
I’d never talk to the thirty people I had become friends with.
That sounds like a choice
In moments like this, the goal doesn’t disappear. We think that perhaps the sands of time will cover it up and we will forget all about it, but we don’t. A goal unfulfilled may grow dim, but it never goes dark.
