Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life (Unfu*k Yourself series)

by Gary John Bishop

The latest in neuroscience and psychology adds weight to the idea that the kind of talk you engage in has a profound impact on the quality of your life.

language you use to describe your circumstances determines how you see, experience, and participate in them and dramatically affects how you deal with your life and confront problems both big and small.

It’s entirely within our power to determine how we think about and talk about our problems. They can be a nuisance or a stepping stone. They can hold us down or lift us up.

We create our own reality with our minds.

“It’s not that you have to find the answer, you are the answer.”

As I’ve said to my clients many, many times, people spend their lives waiting for the cavalry, all the while never realizing they are the cavalry. Your life is waiting on you to finally show up.

A lot of this will come down to your basic tolerance of your current mindset and your willingness to change it.

There’s a massive difference between “I am relentless” and “I will be relentless.”

You have the life you’re willing to put up with.

If you’re not willing to take the actions to change your situation—in other words, if you’re willing to put up with your situation—then whether you like it or not, that is the life you have chosen.

You cannot, I repeat CANNOT dwell in any blame game in your life. Even blaming yourself is completely useless.

you must first accept that while there are things that have happened in your life that you had no say in, you are 100 percent responsible for what you do with your life in the aftermath of those events. Always, every time, no excuses.

Willingness to change, willingness to let go, willingness to accept. Real, magical, inspired willingness.

Sometimes declaring your unwillingness can be just as powerful as declaring willingness.

When you are unwilling it often represents a line in the sand where you are no longer willing to go back the way you came.

We are wired to win—we just have to point ourselves in the right direction so we can win at something we consciously choose.

Face your problems as they come, one by one; give them the attention they need and move on.

“I got this” doesn’t mean you have the perfect solution. It just means you have your hands on the wheel, you have a say in this just like you’ve had a say all along. I mean come on, you live for this shit!

Get in touch with who you really are and say it. I got this. I got this. I got this.

In fact, you could change your life overnight if you simply abandoned the notion that other people’s opinions matter. Life goes on, opinion-heavy or opinion-lite.

While the unknown can hold plenty of bad things, it also holds everything good as well.

“I embrace the uncertainty.” This one simple statement can completely change the way you live, moment to moment to moment. The only thing that’s guaranteed in life is that it’s uncertain. The only thing we know is that we know nothing.

Change your life by changing your actions. That’s the only way.

Your problems don’t derail you, your hidden expectations do!

Don’t expect victory or defeat. Plan for victory, learn from defeat.

“I am willing.” “I am wired to win.” “I got this.” “I embrace the uncertainty.” “I am not my thoughts; I am what I do.” “I am relentless.” “I expect nothing and accept everything.”