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November 21 - November 21, 2025
“This is a conversational slap from the universe to wake you up to your true potential, to unfuck yourself, and get spectacularly into your life.”
In simple terms, the language you use to describe your circumstances determines how you see, experience, and participate in them and dramatically affects how you deal with your life and confront problems both big and small.
“If human emotions largely result from thinking, then one may appreciably control one’s feelings by controlling one’s thoughts—or by changing the internalized sentences, or self-talk, with which one largely created the feeling in the first place.”
The more you tell yourself how hard something is, the harder it will actually seem.
On the other hand, the person who views success as if it were just around the corner will not only work his butt off to achieve it but be energized and alive to it and all the while acting on that fundamental view of success.
“Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears.” - Marcus Aurelius
How willing are you to consider that your life is the way it is, not because of the weight of your circumstances or situation, but rather the weight of self-talk that pulls you down? That what you think you can and cannot do is influenced much more directly by some subconscious response than by the reality of life itself?!
Assertive self-talk is when you stake a claim for this moment of time, right here and now. When you start to talk in terms of “I am . . .” or “I embrace . . .” or “I accept . . .” or “I assert . . . ,” all of which are powerful and commanding uses of language rather than the narrative of “I will . . .” or “I’m going to . . .”
“Stop blaming luck. Stop blaming other people. Stop pointing to outside influences or circumstances.”
If you’re not willing to take the actions to change your situation—in other words, if you’re willing to put up with your situation—then whether you like it or not, that is the life you have chosen.
“Circumstances don’t make the man; they only reveal him to himself.” - Epictetus
You cannot, I repeat CANNOT dwell in any blame game in your life. Even blaming yourself is completely useless.
you must first accept that while there are things that have happened in your life that you had no say in, you are 100 percent responsible for what you do with your life in the aftermath of those events. Always, every time, no excuses.
Willingness to change, willingness to let go, willingness to accept. Real, magical, inspired willingness.
“Fate leads the willing and drags along the reluctant.” - Seneca
“Life won’t stop for your pauses and procrastinations. It
won’t stop for your confusion or fear. It will continue right along without you.”
“Where the willingness is great, the difficulties cannot be great.”
“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things
which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.” - Epictetus
“The truth of it is, you are winning at the life you have.”
“For the most part, you’re basically on autopilot, mindlessly gouging your way through life’s predictable, muddy field.”
“It is the power of the mind to be unconquerable.”
“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts. Therefore, guard accordingly, and take that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.” - Marcus Aurelius
“Everyone has their problems, and life isn’t always perfect. It never will be.”
“If all our misfortunes were laid in one common heap whence everyone must take an equal portion, most people would be content to take their own and depart.” - Socrates
“Get connected to your reality, your real life instead
of your emotionally soaked self-talk narrative about your life.”
“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.” - Aristotle
As you examine all the things you’ve experienced and all the things you’ve yet to experience, take a moment to examine what you are currently dealing with today. Everything on your plate at this point in time is just another something in a sea of somethings. Your boat hasn’t and won’t sink so easily. There may be some waves, you might go through some storms, and you’ll probably end up seasick from time to time, but your journey across that ocean we call life will continue. But just like a captain facing a major squall, you can’t just let yourself be tossed about. You have to step up and steer
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“That’s one of the peculiar things about bad moods—we often fool ourselves and create misery by telling ourselves things that simply are not true.” - David D. Burns
“Uncertainty is where new happens.”
“The desire for safety stands against every great and noble enterprise.” - Tacitus
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” - Theodore Roosevelt
“If you want to win, you have to be willing to be judged by others.”
“If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.” - Epictetus
“You are not defined by what’s inside your head. You are what you do. Your actions.”
“Great thoughts speak only to the thoughtful
mind, but great actions speak to all mankind.” - Theodore Roosevelt
It’d be great if we could simply decide to never have a negative thought, but when it comes down to it, that’s just not realistic.
Every day you engage in activities that you don’t really want to do. That means you already have a muscle for having thoughts and acting independently of them.
“You don’t have to feel like today is your day; you just have to act like it is.”
You change your life by doing, not by thinking about doing.
While your thoughts can become your reality, it’s only through your actions that your thoughts actually become your life. Until then, they are only thoughts.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” - Dale Carnegie
Change your life by changing your actions. That’s the only way.
The point is, positive thinking isn’t a predictor of accomplishment any more than negative thinking indicates failure.
“Action may not bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action.” - Benjamin Disraeli
You are not your thoughts. Act. You are what you do.
“Our biggest successes are born out of discomfort, uncertainty, and risk.”
