Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life (Unfu*k Yourself series)

by Gary John Bishop

“This is a conversational slap from the universe to wake you up to your true potential, to unfuck yourself, and get spectacularly into your life.”

In simple terms, the language you use to describe your circumstances determines how you see, experience, and participate in them and dramatically affects how you deal with your life and confront problems both big and small.

Here’s the breaking news: your self-talk is fucking you over and in ways you can’t even begin to imagine.

The more you tell yourself how hard something is, the harder it will actually seem.

On the other hand, the person who views success as if it were just around the corner will not only work his butt off to achieve it but be energized and alive to it and all the while acting on that fundamental view of success.

It’s not that you have to find the answer, you are the answer. As I’ve said to my clients many, many times, people spend their lives waiting for the cavalry, all the while never realizing they are the cavalry. Your life is waiting on you to finally show up.

Remember, no matter how difficult, challenging, or pressing life’s circumstances can be, how you fundamentally relate to and engage with those circumstances will have the biggest say in how they turn out. Again, the answer is inside you rather than outside you.

Assertive self-talk is when you stake a claim for this moment of time, right here and now. When you start to talk in terms of “I am . . .” or “I embrace . . .” or “I accept . . .” or “I assert . . . ,” all of which are powerful and commanding uses of language rather than the narrative of “I will . . .” or “I’m going to . . .”

If you’re not willing to take the actions to change your situation—in other words, if you’re willing to put up with your situation—then whether you like it or not, that is the life you have chosen.

You cannot, I repeat CANNOT dwell in any blame game in your life. Even blaming yourself is completely useless.

“Fate leads the willing and drags along the reluctant.” - Seneca

You’ll realize that when you’re willing to do what it takes, nothing else matters. You won’t put off the things you’re truly willing to do.

“Our biggest successes are born out of discomfort, uncertainty, and risk.”

“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.” - Aristotle

“Stop doing all that shit you know you shouldn’t be doing and start doing all the shit you know you should be doing.”

“I am willing.” “I am wired to win.” “I got this.” “I embrace the uncertainty.” “I am not my thoughts; I am what I do.” “I am relentless.” “I expect nothing and accept everything.”

This is the entire book!

“You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.” - Carl Jung

Don’t let your mind control you any longer. Stop letting it hold you back with its excuses and distractions and worries.