differentiation means the capacity to become oneself out of one’s self, with minimum reactivity to the positions or reactivity of others. Differentiation is charting one’s own way by means of one’s own internal guidance system, rather than perpetually eyeing the “scope” to see where others are. Differentiation refers more to a process than a goal that can ever be achieved. When people say, “I differentiated from my wife, my child, my parent,” that proves they do not understand the concept.
