when you have hate, you should use words to confess it, not to ventilate it. Talk about it to God or to friends and say, “I have this anger, this discouragement, this temptation.” Your words will, as it were, make the thoughts visible. You can sift them and get perspective on them and throw out the foolish and sinful ones much more easily because you’ve talked about them. Managing our speech is a way to get our whole self under control (James 3:2).
