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by
Mel Robbins
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December 30, 2024 - January 2, 2025
Every time he procrastinates he feels shame and guilt.
Step number one, stop the cycle by forgiving yourself.
when you can picture the “Future You,” it gives you the objectivity to push yourself in the present moment.
that’s an explanation for why vision boards work. They help you envision the Future You and that is a great coping mechanism for the stress you experience today as the Present You.
The moment you feel yourself procrastinating, just ask yourself, What would “Professor Scott” do?
One of the most powerful ways to create new habits, according to researchers, is to “create a starting ritual.”
If procrastinating is a habit, you have to replace the bad behavior pattern (avoidance) with a new positive one (getting started).
Procrastination makes you feel like you have no control over yourself. When you assert yourself and just get started, you are taking control of the moment and your life.
When he finds himself getting off track, he can countdown 5- 4- 3- 2- 1 again.
that at any age and with any goal we have the power to own ourselves,
forward progress of any kind, including small wins, boosts our mood and increases our happiness and productivity levels.
once you start a project, you’ll have triggered a mechanism in your brain to cue you to keep at it.
researchers have found out that the brain remembers unfinished tasks bett...
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Start small. Attack what you are avoiding for just 15 minutes at a time.
give yourself a break for blowing things off until now. You’re only human.
You eat the elephant (in the room) one b...
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unless you beat the feelings that trigger your bad habits, and you push yourself to just get s...
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You’ll either find a way or you’ll find an excuse.
The struggle with my thoughts has been real and, at times, terrifying.
try to break the mental habit of anxiety, panic, and fear? They are patterns that we repeat after all. They are just habits.
Learning to take control of my mind, direct my thoughts, and dismantle fear has been the single greatest thing I have ever done to improve the quality of my life.
I just, 5- 4- 3- 2- 1 and direct my mind towards the solutions rather than worrying about the problems.
My mind is working for me instead of against me.
learn how to use the Rule with “anchor thoughts” to prevent fear from taking over your mind.
Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and the awful, it’s ordinary and mundane and routine.
Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That’s just living.
ending your habit of worrying will create the single biggest positive impact in your life.
adults, we spend way too much time and energy worrying about things that we can’t control or that could go wrong.
My worrying about it won’t keep him safe and it won’t prevent an accident.
worrying “won’t solve anything.” It will just put me on edge for the entire time Chris is out riding his motorcycle—which robs me of enjoying the present moment.
Could something go wrong? Of course it could. But it usually doesn’t.
Each time I caught my mind drifting to a bad thought, I would say to myself “oh no you don’t…” and just point it to a thought that made me smile
I’ve been surprised by how often I start to worry the moment that I feel happiness or love.
I remember experiencing that same tidal wave of emotion that can wash over you when you love someone so much.
When your mind takes you somewhere sad, dark, doubtful, or negative, you don’t have to go with
“99.999% of the time, it has always been a fake reality that I had created in my head.”
I was not going to allow the habit of worrying to derail me from being in the present and taking a mental photograph.
“What am I grateful for in this moment? What do I want to remember?”
focus on the positive aspects of your life.
As soon as you think about what you are grateful for, you’ll start feeling grateful instead of worried.
“Nothing” in life is perfect.
It’s okay to be scared. Being scared means you’re about to do something really, really brave.
Anxiety is what happens when your habit of worrying spirals out of control.
think I was born anxious. As a child, my parents said I had a “nervous stomach” and I worried about everything.
A panic attack feels like you’re about to have a heart attack and can happen for two reasons: one, because you have something scary to do (public speaking, facing an ex, getting on airplane), or two, for no reason at all.
There will be tons of times in your life when you will panic and it will be completely normal.
When your mind has an explanation for why your body just freaked out, it won’t escalate the anxiety. Your mind will allow your body to calm down because it knows the “danger” has passed.
When you have a panic attack, that same “near miss” sensation rushes your mind and body, without any warning and with no preceding event.
Your heart races. Your breath speeds up. You might get a little sweaty. Your cortisol surges. Your body goes into a state of hyper awareness.
If you don’t have a legitimate reason why, your mind will think you must be in actual danger. Your mind will go prehistoric on you and escalate the fear, thinking that danger is imminent.
