The National Center for Women & Policing noted in its “Police and Family Violence Fact Sheet” that “at least forty percent of police officer families experience domestic violence.” This is a rate higher than even that of National Football League players. So the police are often the least likely people to be able to solve problems, to think in nuanced ways about emotional pain and its projections, and as a result are not the people we need help from if we are interested in creating peace.