The supremacist, who blames others because they have to be perfect, and the traumatized person, who will fall apart entirely if they understand any flaw, both say, “You need help.” The responsible person who understands that all parties participate in conflict, says, “We need help.” If we really think that someone “needs help,” we help them. The claim “you need help, therefore I will compound your problems by shunning and bullying you,” obviously is entirely unethical, hypocritical, and socially detrimental.
