“The current paradigm is encouraging all of us to think we are in abusive relationships,” Hodes explained. “And if you are not in an abusive relationship, you don’t deserve help. Being ‘abused’ is what makes you ‘eligible.’ But everyone deserves help when they reach out for it.”
which is an issue of policing, right? because it's fair of them to want/need to stay out of conflict and not escalate, but that still leaves people in a situation that requires assistance/intervention without anyone that can be called in
