It’s true that my discussion is “undisciplined,” as it is not rooted in traditional academic research or controlled studies with live subjects. But it’s civilians who will have to find solutions to escalation, and in this spirit I am looking within, thinking, feeling, observing, listening to eclectic sources and other people’s stories, to try to think of ways to help myself and others to not escalate Conflict so that it becomes Abuse; to face and deal with it, instead of avoiding it.