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Lilly Singh
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June 24, 2018 - December 31, 2019
There is no all-access pass. No matter who you are, there is going to be something you want to do that will require you to start from the bottom. That shouldn’t scare you because you’re a Bawse and you thrive on challenges. You don’t feel entitled to success—you feel empowered to earn it. So earn it, again and again.
You’re special because you are a unique individual possessing a set of characteristics that no one else in the world has.
But that specialness goes away if you do not do anything with your unique characteristics.
A Bawse knows that if they’re going to feel validated, it should happen only when they accomplish goals or contribute to society.
When you have a list of ten goals and people throw you parties after you’ve finished three of them, that can make you feel like maybe the other seven goals aren’t that important.
Validation is temporary, and a Bawse thinks long-term.
Celebrating yourself is an important part of loving yourself. But be aware of getting validated without reason or too often, because an overly comfortable environment is not one in which hustle thrives.
It’s a beautiful thing to let achievements make you feel good, rather than praise and other fluffy things.
Participation ribbons are for country fairs, not life. You don’t get one for being born.
The next time you have an idea, recognize that your idea is your baby and if you parent it well, it will grow up to be a wonderful event, product, or campaign.
a Bawse knows that in certain situations, it’s beneficial to be the dumbest person in the room. Surrounding yourself with people who are more experienced and knowledgeable than you are is a great way to step outside your comfort zone and continue to learn and grow.
Being the dumbest person on your team doesn’t make you a stupid person; it means you’re smart enough to select people to work with that you can learn from.
It also means checking your ego and being okay with the fact that you aren’t the best at something.
I didn’t know people were using highlighters on their face now!
Even I was confuseed about that whwn i first hwaed my feind in university mention it.
What good would it be to surround yourself with smarter people if you can’t learn from them? There seems to be this universal fear of “looking stupid” or “sounding dumb.”
Who is dumber, the person who pretends they know everything, or the person who doesn’t and asks questions? Wasting an opportunity to learn seems pretty dumb to me. It’s difficult, though, to let go of the idea that people may view you as “stupid.”
if you don’t understand something, ask questions until you do understand it.
That’s not “looking dumb,” that’s being dedicated to learning something new.
it’s essential for growth to occasionally surround yourself with people who are smarter than you.
At the end of the day, you can’t learn new things if you’re always the one giving the lessons.
You need to be around people who challenge you, intimidate you, and teach you new things. Being a Bawse isn’t always about being the best; it’s about placing yourself in the best situations.
The only way you can become smarter is by giving yourself a chance to be dumb sometimes.
you are never too good to stop investing in yourself. We live in a constantly evolving environment, so we need to evolve and grow. Your best today may not be enough next year, so keep developing.
ways you can invest in yourself using time, energy, and money:
learning never stops. After all, the best teachers in the world are the ones who are still students. Learning new things means taking the time to read books, watch YouTube videos (hello, self-plug), and attend events that will expand your current knowledge base.
Investing energy into yourself refers to taking classes (like Lindsey), practicing your craft (like Lindsey), and ensuring that you’re making decisions that will benefit you (I don’t stalk her but this is probably like Lindsey too).
These things require not only time but focus and repetition and therefore energy.
You’re never so good at anything that you can stop putting energy into getting better.
Another way to invest money in yourself is by supporting your own projects.
You are revolutionary. You have amazing ideas. You have the ability to create, to change, to solve, and to influence. Don’t sell yourself short by not spending your time, energy, and money on creating the best version of yourself.
Rules and systems need to be in place so that people don’t run completely wild.
If everyone followed protocol all the time, no one would ever do something for the first time. Nothing would change. No one would stand out—or stand up to injustice.
Well, here’s the thing: a Bawse doesn’t need to always do things the way they’re traditionally done. A Bawse does things however they need to be done, by any means necessary.
Whatever you do in life, there will be protocols and rules. The majority of the time, you should probably follow them. But every once in a while, if you feel like a rule is not accommodating to the magic you could create, draw outside of the lines, knock over the pylons, and cross the yellow line. Break the rules and get things done. Sometimes it’ll result in something magnificent, and sometimes it might result in complete chaos, but sometimes it’s better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. So break boundaries and go beyond the limits set in place. Don’t let a system and the
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Of course you notice a Bawse. They walk with purpose, speak with confidence, and light up a room, so it’s impossible to miss them.
Something about them stands out and leaves a lasting impression on people. They are not easily overlooked or forgotten.
First impressions are important, but they aren’t the only times you’ll need to demonstrate your Bawse presence.
a Bawse doesn’t just smile because they’re supposed to.
To have true presence, smile for a reason.
Smile in response to meeting someone new based on something they do or say, not just because it’s the conventional thing to do.
Instead of thinking of a response while someone is speaking, pause and focus on what they are actually telling you.
Really think about it. Then engage and ask questions to further understand and continue the conversation.
Being present means showing interest in what peo...
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Being a good listener and a great conversationalist is key to having true presence.
If you want to have great presence, mean what you say. You’ll make much more of an impression if you say, “You know what, I’m actually pretty good. I woke up feeling a bit under the weather but this party has cured me. What about you?” It sounds more interesting and it may even spark conversation.
The best way to have presence is to be present (MIND = BLOWN). This means that when you’re at an event or talking to someone, be there entirely.
TIP: Before you enter a room, commit to being present by saying a simple sentence like, “For the next sixty minutes, I am entirely here and nowhere else.”
It’s no secret that a big part of having great presence is being confident. Confidence is one of those things that is easy to talk about but is sometimes difficult to have.
few ways to boost your confidence and let it shine:
DRESS COMFORTABLY Regardless of what everyone else is wearing and what magazines say you should wear, dress in a way that makes you feel awesome.
