Self Esteem Mastery (Workbook Included!): What Healthy Self-Esteem Is & How To Get It

by Martin Kaye

The most important thing I learned is that self-esteem is very complex, and that developing a healthier self-esteem.

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So the actual correlation between high self-esteem.

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“healthy [self-esteem] is not about judging one’s worth as a whole”.

The problem again is that “who we are” is not disconnected from how we act. We can’t be something, anything, in a vacuum.

So telling people that they are wonderful “no matter what”, is a two-fold trap because 1) it puts the focus on the value of the self, 2) it assumes that that value is completely separate from our behavior.

Self-pity is egocentric and inwardly focused, which you will remember from previous chapters is not a good thing for our self-esteem.