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ENFPs who respond to conflict explosively display the following confrontation tactics: Quick to accuse the other party of wrongful or morally corrupt behavior. Unwilling to accept blame for their own wrongful actions. May play on the other party’s insecurities and weaknesses, behaving in an uncharacteristically cruel manner. May have a history of feeling deeply misunderstood or unheard in conflict situations. Likely to experience a strong visceral reaction to anger and may feel out of control of their own reaction.
In order to move from an explosive communication style to an assertive one, the ENFP needs to become more comfortable with their introverted feeling function. By taking the time to process negative emotions internally, the ENFP will be able to understand the root of their anger and pinpoint its origin. Anger is almost always masking a deeper negative emotion, which the ENFP must understand before they are able to approach the issue consciously and productively. When the ENFP understands the true root of their anger, they can then turn to their extroverted thinking to find productive methods of
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Many ENFPs are accommodating by nature. Because this type is not particularly fussed by small, day-to-day concerns, they tend to be open and agreeable towards other peoples’ ways of going about things.
ENFP needs to work through their introverted feeling to determine their definitive stance on the issue and then turn to their extroverted thinking to produce a solution.
the ENFP must learn to break down the feeling of pride that is berating their introverted feeling and attempt to see the situation from the opposing party’s point of view.
Whereas introverted feeling examines emotions through the lens of what is authentic and true, extroverted feeling looks at emotions through the lens of what is useful in maintaining interpersonal harmony.
Whereas introverted feeling seeks to understand emotion first and manage it second, extroverted feeling seeks to manage emotion first and understand it second.
Whereas extroverted thinking looks at what is tangibly useful, introverted thinking looks at what is indisputably true. Whereas extroverted thinking implements plans, introverted thinking analyses systems. Whereas extroverted thinking is results-oriented, introverted thinking is process-oriented.
Whereas extroverted thinking strives to impose order on chaos, introverted thinking strives to comprehensively understand the chaos within order.
Whereas introverted sensing categorizes experiences, extroverted sensing collects them.
Many MBTI theorists consider the ENFP-INTJ pairing to be among the most fitting matches within the Myers-Briggs inventory for long-term partnership.
The ENFP works as something of an idea-generator, whereas the INTJ works as something of an idea-optimizer. Together, they are an intellectual dream team.
sense of stubbornness – which both the ENFP and the INTJ possess in high measure.
introverted feelers, they tend to be somewhat emotionally guarded (the INTJ more so than the ENFP), often leading to communication difficulties.
Having an auxiliary feeling function, the ENFP tends to require more affection, affirmation and validation than the INTJ feels comfortable giving.
Display loyalty and honesty in your relationship with an INTJ – trust and commitment within a relationship is incredibly important to them. Recognize the ways in which they show love – they may not be the most romantic partner or emotionally expressive friend, but they display their affection through acts of loyalty, commitment and diligence.
ENTJs are the analytical and tirelessly efficient leaders of the MBTI. ENFPs tend to be drawn to this type because of their confidence, gregariousness, intelligence and put-together attitude.
ENTJ-ENFP relationship is often one where a great amount of growth takes place on behalf of both parties.
On a day-to-day basis, the ENTJ is focused, task-oriented and efficient, whereas the ENFP is creative, thoughtful and excitable.
Be assertive with the ENTJ. When they seem as though they’re being ‘bossy,’ they’re usually just attempting to communicate what they believe the best choice to be. If you don’t agree with this choice, let them know this directly and explain your reasoning to them.
they will go above and beyond to solve problems that arise either within the relationship or externally.
Display loyalty to the ENTJ in all endeavors – to them, loyalty is the ultimate act of love.
