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November 21, 2021 - April 24, 2022
“There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.”
The self-image is changed, for better or worse, not by intellect alone, or by intellectual knowledge alone, but by “experiencing.”
It is not the child who is taught about love but the child who has experienced love that grows into a healthy, happy, well-adjusted adult.
the human nervous system cannot tell the difference between an actual experience and an experience imagined vividly and in detail.
Searching for a new idea, or an answer to a problem, is in fact very similar to searching memory for a name you have forgotten.
A human being always acts and feels and performs in accordance with what he imagines to be true about himself and his environment.
Your nervous system cannot tell the difference between an imagined experience and a real experience. In either case, it reacts automatically to information that you give to it from your forebrain. Your nervous system reacts appropriately to what you think or imagine to be true. The Secret of Hypnotic Power Dr.
As Alex Morrison said, you must first clearly see a thing in your mind before you can do it.
all skill learning is accomplished by trial and error, by making a trial, missing the mark, consciously remembering the degree of error, and making correction on the next trial—until finally a hit, or successful attempt, is accomplished.
one of the main causes of breakdown, worry, and all sorts of other personal problems, was this bad mental habit of feeling that you should be doing many things now.
Dr. John A. Schindler defines happiness as “a state of mind in which our thinking is pleasant a good share of the time.”
It might be nearer the truth if we said, “Be happy—and you will be good, more successful, healthier, feel and act more charitably toward others.”
One of the most pleasant thoughts to any human being is the thought that he is needed, that he is important enough and competent enough to help and add to the happiness of some other human being.
Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. —Abraham Lincoln
“Men are disturbed not by the things that happen, but by their opinion of the things that happen.”
Form the habit of reacting aggressively and positively toward threats and problems.
The measure of mental health is the disposition to find good everywhere. —Ralph Waldo Emerson
“One sermon has helped me overcome pressure better than the advice of any coach. Its substance was that, like a squirrel hoarding chestnuts, we should store up our moments of happiness and triumph so that in a crisis we can draw upon these memories for help and inspiration.
Fully 95 percent of our behavior, feeling, and response is habitual.
Someone has said that it is a good exercise to daily admit one painful fact about ourselves to ourselves.
It is a psychological fact that our feelings about ourselves tend to correspond to our feelings about other people.
We cannot feel anything about other people unless we “stop and think” about them.
We simply must get it through our heads that holding a low opinion of ourselves is not a virtue, but a vice.
Even a small success can be used as a stepping-stone to a greater one.
Another important technique is to form the habit of remembering past successes, and forgetting failures.
Many people hate and reject themselves because they feel and experience perfectly natural biological desires.
“I may not be perfect, I may have faults and weaknesses, I might have gotten off the track, I may have a long way to go—but I am something and I will make the most of that something.”
Frustration is an emotional feeling that develops whenever some important goal cannot be realized or when some strong desire is thwarted.
trouble ensues when we are blocked or frustrated in achieving our goal. The emotional steam is then dammed up, seeking an outlet. Misdirected, or unused, it becomes a destructive force. The worker who wants to punch his boss in the nose, but doesn’t dare, goes home and snaps at his wife and kids or kicks the cat.
It is an old psychological axiom that constant exposure to the object of fear immunizes against the fear.
It is in the nature of things that we progress by acting, making mistakes, and correcting course.
No man ever became great or good except through many and great mistakes.
When you receive a physical injury, such as a cut on the face, your body forms scar tissue that is both tougher and thicker than the original flesh.
Scientific experiments have shown that it is absolutely impossible to feel fear, anger, anxiety, or negative emotions of any kind while the muscles of the body are kept perfectly relaxed.
“‘I can forgive, but I cannot forget,’ is only another way of saying ‘I will not forgive,’”
extinction of the conditioning—by delaying your response.
For nowhere, either with more quiet or more freedom from trouble, does a man retire than into his own soul, particularly when he has within him such thoughts that by looking into them he is immediately in perfect tranquility; and I affirm that tranquility is nothing else than the good ordering of the mind. Constantly then give to thyself this retreat, and renew thyself.”
We need to learn to evaluate so-called crisis situations in their true perspective; to not make mountains out of molehills, or react as if every small challenge is a matter of life or death.
The crude, inept stroke that he used to rescue himself becomes “fixed,” and it is difficult for him to learn better ways of swimming. Because of his ineptness he may perish in a real crisis where he is required to swim a long distance.
The more intense the crisis situation under which you learn, the less you learn. Professor Jerome S.
No matter what happens, I can handle it, or I can see it through, rather than I hope nothing happens.
“The real problem is not to control emotion,” wrote Lecky, “but to control the choice of which tendency shall receive emotional reinforcement.”
“When some misfortune threatens, consider seriously and deliberately what is the very worst that could possibly happen. Having looked this possible misfortune in the face, give yourself sound reasons for thinking that after all it would be no such very terrible disaster. Such reasons always exist, since at the worst nothing that happens to oneself has any cosmic importance.
Pavlov, on his deathbed, was asked to give one last bit of advice to his students on how to succeed. His answer was “Passion and gradualness.”
The scientist must first set up a hypothetical truth, a hypothesis not based on fact but on implications, before he can know which experiments to make or where to look for facts that may prove or disprove his hypothetical truth.
Surgeon dresses the wound, God heals it.”
