Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex

by John Gray

What she needs to remember: 4. Remember: when a man becomes stubborn and resists change he is not feeling loved; he is afraid to admit his mistakes for fear of not being loved. What she can do: 4. Practice showing him that he doesn’t have to be perfect to deserve your love Practice forgiveness. (See chapter 11.) What she needs to remember: 5. Remember: if you make sacrifices hoping he will do the same for you then he will feel pressured to change. What she can do: 5. Practice doing things for yourself and not depending on him to make you happy. What she needs to remember: 6. Remember: you can share negative feelings without trying to change him. When he feels accepted it is easier for him to listen. What she can do: 6. When sharing feelings, let him know that you are not trying to tell him what to do but that you want him to take your feelings into consideration. What she needs to remember: 7. Remember: if you give him directions and make decisions for him he will feel corrected and controlled. What she can do: 7. Relax and surrender. Practice accepting imperfection. Make his feelings more important than perfection and don’t lecture or correct him.