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The Heart Key is the key to the biggest heart on earth: yours. The Life Key is the key to opening our lives for each other. And the Journey Key is for the path to our happiness.”
It turns out that relationships don’t require sacrifices. They just require growing up—and the ability to stop clinging to immature needs that are so tenacious, they keep the mature needs from getting met.
The wounds that humans get are so strong that they’re like robots operating on childhood programming.
In a big, connected world, it’s easy to find enough people with the same trauma profile to agree with you, then simply discount, ignore, or attack all evidence to the contrary.
The opposite of fear is not joy. It is acceptance.
Our commitment is solely to nurturing, supporting, and honoring three important entities in our lives: me, her, and the relationship. Whatever it takes and however we may change.
There isn’t just one true and proper way to love, to relate, to bond, to touch. Any style of relationship is the right one, as long as it’s a decision made by the whole person and not the hole in the person.
“I’m honest about everything and so is she. There are no secrets. So we’d just
discuss those things, like we should have in the first place.
In fact, the exact things I used to be the most scared to talk about actually brought us closer together once we got past the initial awkwardness. It was the not knowing that was driving her the most crazy. Eventually she felt safe enough to share her deepest fantasies, and it ...
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Patrick Carnes’s Post-Traumatic Stress Index test online to understand the ways your past haunts your behavior today. (Use the original PTSI test, not the revised PTSI-R.)
