Let that thought sink in: I should be feeling happy. How do you feel now? If you feel worse, you’re not alone. Virtually everyone reports the same response. Why? Because, in the case of our moods, the very act of focusing on the gap, comparing how we are feeling with how we want to feel (or how we think we should feel) makes us feel unhappy, taking us even further away from how we want to be. Focusing on the gap in this way is actually a reflection of the mind’s habitual strategy for trying to sort out situations in which things aren’t as we want them to be.
