To overcome this herd mentality and pull people into my dinner parties who would otherwise not come, I developed a helpful little concept I call the “anchor tenant.” Every individual within a particular peer set has a bridge to someone outside his or her own group of friends. We all have, to some degree or another, developed relationships with older, wiser, more experienced people; they may be our mentors, our parents’ friends, our teachers, our rabbis and reverends, our bosses. I call them anchor tenants; their value comes from the simple fact that they are, in relation to one’s core group of
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