The external game is amplifying our threat system and mistakenly believing that our drive system will help us avoid feeling rejected, insignificant, or alone. If we just reach the top of the mountain, our threats and insecurities will disappear. They won’t. All the while, we’ve forgotten our contentment system. Allowed it to wither away like a muscle that’s been stuck in a cast for months. Think back to the protestant work ethic research that found that not working caused distress in people who saw work as a virtue. We’ve made being content seem threatening instead of soothing. We’ve
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